You ever heard of the theory that you do not need to put a lid on a case full of lobsters since the second one tries to climb out to a better life, the others will pull it back in? Then just call me Dr. Pinchie.
A big part of self compassion is recognizing common humanity, the fact that everyone suffers and has setbacks which helps people realize life is not a dysfunctional ‘you’ vs a perfect ‘them’ but a dysfunctional ‘you and them’ since we all have pain and setbacks and are all trying to achieve our goals and guard our weaknesses, and fail miserably at it at times. And even though most of us give a good impression of who we are to others (because we are afraid of negative reactions and a lack of social status) many people struggle with intrapersonal and interpersonal troubles. And vulnerabilities never go away.
As an example we are in a recession and tons of people (myself included) are unemployed. However I know people making 300k+ household incomes who are miserable.
People bright enough to go to MIT still can suffer from mental health problems.
People can have a great job, family, career, etc and lose a kid to an illness and it changes everything.
I really don’t know where I’m going with this. Mostly just examples that people still and always will have pain, vulnerabilities and problems, no matter how successful they are in other areas.
I’m not looking to drag people down, just to remind myself of our common humanity as physically and psychologically vulnerable organic creatures no matter how accomplished we are in other areas (status, income, intelligence, education, social bonds, etc).
If anyone has examples, feel free to post them. If not, I’d take some youtube videos of fat kids making motorboat sounds as they run around their backyards as silver medals.