I find it annoying. But I do understand why som people do it.
Carnick and Cheese Monster You might be comfortable with everyone who reads this board knowing your name, but not everyone is. There is more than one reason for this. Take for example, the poster on this board who mentioned they were still in fear of their stalker. I, myself, am not comfortable letting my name out into the ether. I might decide one day to go meet some of you face to face, but that’s a different situation. It’s not about having your identity stolen, necessarily. Some of us don’t want to make it any easier for those that stalk to figure out what our internet screen names are. It’s a valid concern, maybe not everyone has it, but please respect those that do. Also, it’s a matter of respecting your loved one’s desire for privacy on the net.
Penis envy?
Nyctea, I don’t know anyone who goes around talking about “my husband” all the time, except for one or two people for whom marriage is their one big accomplishment to date. I’ve never met the spouses of my coworkers, but I know their names, and they know Dr.J’s name. Trust me, Bill and Fred have a certain humanity that you just don’t get from “husband of coworker 1” and “husband of coworker 2”.
If Dr.J didn’t have his own screen name, I probably wouldn’t refer to him as CrazyCatGuy, because he doen’t quite share my ambition to be the wierd old folks all the kids are scared of, and because I’m far too lazy to type out a name that long. I probably wouldn’t use Mr. CrazyCat, either, for the same reasons. I’d probably call him the Buttweasel and then abbreviate it to BW. (That would only be if he didn’t read the boards either, though. He gets more than a bit grumpy about being called a buttweasel.)
And for all the reasons previously stated.
So I’m wondering,
how do you feel about, ‘the mister / the missus’?
I’m sure you can understand why partner only leads to confusion.
Besides I know ‘Mr’ Elbows wouldn’t upset him, since I’ve personally called him much worse, but wouldn’t dream of doing it here!
I dunno what to call him most of the time.
“My boyfriend”- not quite accurate anymore, and makes me think of “Will u be my boyfriend? Circle one- YES NO”. I don’t hear it that way when some one else says it, but when I use it…
“My fiance”- technically accurate I suppose, but I don’t like to use it. Feels pretentious.
“My SO/WarySO”- Perfect for online conversations. Sounds frigging ridiculous when said aloud.
“My partner”- My default for real life conversations. I take perverse delight in the fact that it’s gender neutral and those who don’t know me well can’t immediatly put me into the “straight” box. Ever since I was reading a Savage Love letter and realized that not only did I not know if it was a gay man or a straight woman talking about problems with their boyfriend, but that it didn’t matter, I’ve been fond of the lack of connotations “partner” has.
“My spouse/husband/ Mr. Eri”- Someday, but it’s not accurate right now.
Of course, when talking to people who know us or know me well enough to know who he is, I just call him by name. He has a certain amount of online fame, so I’m more used to being " ____'s girlfriend" than him being defined by me…it’s kinda a nice change.
I’m not terribly security-oriented (there’s plenty of info on these message boards to identify me in real life), but if I were to post my real first name, it would narrow me down to about a half-dozen people world-wide. Add in my location, and it probably is a unique identifier. mischief-lover is in a similar, if not worse, position. Just because there are lots of Jameses in the world doesn’t mean the situation is the same for everyone.
Besides, if you talk about Colleen, I’m not going to have the faintest clue who you’re talking about.
mischievous
Well, I was calling my mom MomBlink, but now that she has her own screen name I haveta call her infamousmom instead.
Procure me a girlfriend, and I’ll let you tell me what to call her. Elsewise, I’ll call my hypothetical chica what I want to call her. 
No. But I’ll say this. It is a mutilation of the word “probably”. It makes me cringe like fingernails on a blackboard.
I like callling my wife Mrs. Evil Captor in part because of the image it conveys – I see a kindly old Sylvester and Tweety-style granny lady puttering about, saying things like, “Oh, dear, let me adjust your chains.”
Why is it that every time I read a Pit rant about a common board practice, I end up being the only one who likes it?
I find the Mr./Mrs. screenname concept endearing. It enhances the idea that this entire message board is just a big show being put on for my entertainment, where the kabess (one of my favorites) and Mrs. carrot are additional characters. I’m especially fond of people making amusing plays on their usernames to identify their SO’s.
OTOH, I suppose it’s a good thing that I don’t have an SO, because he might not like being referred to as Mr. Virgin.
I think I could prolly guess which word you mean , given enough time.
I have precisely the same reaction to that…collection of letters. (It is not a word by any stretch of the imagination.) I made the mistake of mentioning this to Mrs. JSexton. Now it’s her favorite implement of torture.
Violating my policy of never posting just to correct a typo to say that the kabbess is one of my favorite SO designations, and I would never want to misspell it.
And to make this more than a typo correction post, I was going to do that, Vetch, but I didn’t want to face the wrath of Libertarian, especially because that really is the way I prounounce (but not write) the word.
Might I invite the OP to just Mrs. Fuck Off And Die.
In the same thread, Ginger refered to herself as “Mrs Weirddave”. It’s was theme, get it?
You could always call him MyDeSpoiledVirgin, or Mr. DSpoiler, or another wicked play on your screen name.
Lacking a clear understanding of syllabage, I submit “pneumatomachy” is a word that would make you quite angry, Lib, even when correctly pronounced. 
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When my daughter was acting, the kids at one shoot she did referred to parents as Mrs. Britney’s Mom, etc. Sounds better than Mrs. Last Name you might not even remember, and which might not be right anyway.
I never did it to be cutesy when I was genie, I called him Mr. genie because I don’t like DH, I’m not going to use his real name, and it’s a lot easier than saying “my husband.” I don’t use “my husband” in real life, I use his name. Which, as we’ve established, many of us here aren’t going to do. I always thought the SD custom of Mr/Mrs username far more commonsensical and non-cute than anything else I saw.
Now I get to call him DangerDad, which is also fine.