That phrase may too often be used incorrectly by insufferable people who don’t really know what they’re talking about, but… the actual practice of looking at a problem or a challenge from a whole different point of view and questioning conventional solutions is a valuable one.
But maybe I’m just being defensive because I’ve used that phrase before-- hopefully in a helpful manner, and hopefully I didn’t sound too insufferable when I said it
Oh I heartily agree that looking at issues from different angles is great - I do it myself. But I also strive to come up with ideas and make suggestions. I tend to find people who throw that phrase around too much don’t offer any solutions. It’s easy to pick holes, it’s much harder to solve problems.
Sorry it bothers you, but for a good chunk of us down here in the lower right-hand corner of the country, y’all isn’t an affectation, but the default second-plural pronoun.
In fact, misuse of y’all is one of my linguistic bêtes noires. I cringe whenever I hear someone - almost always a non-Southerner - say “Well, how’re y’all?” when speaking to one person. (Or when an author misuses it thusly as a cute way to indicate that a character is Southern; looking at you, Christopher Moore.)
I perceive the subtext as “Oh, that’s a funny word those quaint Southerners use, aren’t I friendly and cute for using it instead of the real word?” And they usually misspell it “ya’ll”. When in fact, by the rules of English grammar, y’all is a perfectly legal word with a definite role as a pronoun. It is in fact, as @Robot_Arm pointed out, a contraction of you all and the apostrophe marks the missing vowels, as it does with any other contraction. Y’all is no more exotic than “I’m” or “can’t” or “they’re”. And of course, it’s always plural.
I’ve never understood why “y’all” is considered so awful. I mean, it’s maybe not Standard English, but it does adhere to the rules for the second person plural pronoun.
At any rate, it’s better than “youse” or whatever the heck that is.
I don’t mind “y’all” at all. What I HATE is when fully adult, grownup people use the term “my Daddy” when they mean “my father” or “my dad”. Maybe it sounds fine to other Southerners, but to my Northern ears it sounds infantile.
Now there I agree with you wholeheartedly. It’s equally annoying when a grown man, especially a politician, refers to himself by a childhood nickname. As, for example, Georgia Public Service Commissioner Lauren “Bubba” McDonald. I get that he might not want to use his real first name on the ballot. But “Bubba”? Makes it sound like he wears overalls with no shirt, and fucks farm animals.