Wow, a lot of stuff happens to you, START. My life is the equivalent of staring at a white wall compared to yours! 
I agree with interface2x! You’ve had more turmoil, upset and drama in your life since you started posting here than I’ve had in a decade! I don’t know whether it’s the people you surround yourself with, the people you are stuck with, or something about you that attracts drama. I hope you get an education and get yourself away from the type of people who are wreaking havoc with your life like the ones in it now. I don’t have anything negative to say at all. I wish you the best… but you have to do something to bring some equilibrium and stability to your everyday life, and stop having some absurd drama every other day. It’ll drive you crazy.
Oh, and as far as the “purity” issue, I think you did a lot better in that situation than a lot of other teenaged boys would have. 
It’s good that you stopped things when you realized that she wasn’t going to give it up. You seem like you had good intentions. Things just got out of hand because crushes/love make people, especially teens, do stupid things sometimes.
It’s this message board that is causing all my drama and all of you Dopers. The SDMB has been the worst thing for me in a long time…I’m not renewing, fuck you all.
Just Kidding, you guys are great ;). I looked through some of my threads and it would seem that way but that’s only an illusion I doubt I go through anymore daily “drama” than anyone else. I just have a habit of sharing it and so it may seem one way when most of the time things are pretty mundane and pointless, even if I don’t post there to often
I have been told I can tell a good story and I’m a drama king so I could probably make staring at a white wall seem “dramatic”.
I stared at the white wall and I swear I could see it moving and I just couldn’t take it so I hit it with my fist and then had to go the doctor and the doctor kept screaming at me asking why I would hit the wall… you get the picture.
Nobody ever got in trouble for relieving their own tension. Oh wait, there was Peewee Herman. Well, don’t do it in public, anyway.
What is this “purity” you talk about, anyway?
START I know exactly the kind of books you mean (the former youth leader at my parents’ church was very fond of them).
Trust me, they’re even harder on girls.
Those books seem to be stuck in some kind of time-warp where women don’t need to be told not to masturbate, because, presumably, ladies don’t do that sort of thing, but need to be told that wearing a short skirt is endangering the immortal soul of every male over the age of 10 within a five-mile radius, because the poor dears might have impure thoughts and it’s ALL YOUR FAULT, YOU HUSSY!
(I think the emphasis for teens should move away from “purity” and onto self-esteem. Sleeping around makes you feels skanky, sleeping with people you don’t respect and who don’t respect you makes you feel like crap, and most teenage sex is frankly awful. Why would you want to mess yourself up over something not that wonderful, when you can wait until you’re with the right person and make it something great? Plus all the stuff about safe sex in there at the end.)
Give her back the book.
With the pages stuck together.
Ah, high school.
It’ll get better when you’re in college, and you can break off a relationship by having a screaming, drunken, half-nude argument in the street during a party.
I second this. This is what teenagers should learn about sex. And the stds can kill you, and you can get pregnant. As far as I’m concerned, teenagers (male and female) should be wanking away at every chance, rather than risking all of the above.
Thank you Dr. Elders, and make sure you dust off your resume before you go home tonight.
Oops, I forgot the smilie. Sorry.
A thread with a title starting with “Pitting the Handicapped…” that isn’t a pile-on! Whatever next?
re. START’s mom’s dubious sex education book: what featherlou said.