Fenris - I don’t mean to sound so coldhearted, really, but I HAVE been in that situation. I am a single mother with 3 kids. It was TOUGH in the beginning, but - and I hope this doesn’t sound overly dramatic - <b>I worked my ass off whenever there was something I wanted. </B>
I wanted to buy a house - I went back to school, busted ass, and found a job that allowed me to move up the ladder and make good enough bucks to start saving and eventually qualify for a mortgage.
I wanted a certain car - I worked overtime and saved up enough money to pay for it with cash.
I wanted to show my kids the world - I worked more overtime, saved and saved for two years, then took my kids traveling through Europe for 5 weeks.
I wanted new furniture - I worked extra hours.
I wanted all new windows in my house - I worked Saturdays and stop buying things that aren’t necessary, like candybars and pop.
I take my family on a major vacation every year - I have a savings account set aside for just that purpose. My kids earn their own spending money.
I am remodeling my kitchen - I started selling on eBay to help fund that :::cough::: little :::cough::: project that is currently making me nuts.
Except for the house, I have not paid for any of it with credit or loans.
I have mentioned it many times before that I work with the homeless. I have heard every excuse in the book when it comes to why a person should not have to work for something they want. Some are legit (like mental illness), most are not.
So again, as cold as it sounds, as a single mother of 3 in a one income household, I have a very hard time understanding why a person is unable, or UNWILLING, to make an effort to earn $5.00 for something that is that important to them and instead makes excuse after excuse as to why they can’t.