Nope, and we have separate checking accounts.
But, my Google personalized page is one of my homepages open when I sign on to the laptop, and I’m always signed in there, so it’s not as if there’s any secrets to be had.
When we first got married, and got dial-up (awwww, our first internet connection) we had one that was “the_xxx’s@whatever” but it was basically hers.
Since then, she’s had her own. I’ve always had, besides work and school, a yahoo, a google, a hotmail at different times.
It’s not about privacy though. Not that I’d want her to read some of the shit-talking I do with my buddies, but it’s just sensible. Sometimes she gets email and sometimes I do. I don’t want to open one up that’s for her, and tell her, “go check the read email”.
The difference between email and a phone (which we share) is that an email account is free.
Oh god no. We have separate email accounts and we each have at least three. I wouldn’t even dream of having just a joint account.
My parents do although I think it is because my mother has very little affinity for computers. She can use one and she can type very fast but her emails read like letters and seem rather formal for some reason. Mom retired before email really became commonplace so she never used it for work. I set up a yahoo account for her but she never used it saying that it was more bother than it was really worth and she doesn’t email enough for her to bother.
We each have our own accounts. More than one each, in fact.
I have 2 married friends who have joint accounts with their husbands. I don’t really get it. Not only that, but one of the husbands is job searching, and his their email address is <Wife’snameHusband’snameLastname@ whatever> and I can’t help but wonder if that appears odd to employers. I could just not be used to the idea, though.
My Wife uses her work email. I have a work and a personal email. She is welcome to use my personal one if she wanted, or I could create a new one for her, but she just doesn’t seem to be interested. I’m on the computer a lot more than her, but she does a few things on it.
And like you Mr Bus Guy, separate checking accounts.
No, we each have our own e-mail address, and always have. We have a joint bank account, though.
Separate email and checking accounts. Also separate computers. We’re 40ish.
Seperate home offices, checking accounts, computers, and e-mail. I wouldn’t have it any other way but some people seem to prefer their spouse to also be a guardian.
I do. When we were in the US we had one joint email, which I also used for work, and he had an additional work one. After we moved to Europe, we only kept the one.
Dearly Beloved now has an additional email addy for his work, I still use just this one.
We also have joint bank accounts and credit cards and so on. We have two computers but I wouldn’t call them seperate – one is downstairs and one is upstairs. He mostly uses the one downstairs as he likes to use the computer where there is noise and people and so on; I mostly use the upstairs one because I do not.
Our cars were jointly titled also but we still drove the same ones each day, and we called one mine and one his. Though it legally was not true.
As it happens, I don’t read his email and he doesn’t read mine. He could of course. I could read his, too. I could listen in on the phone also, but I don’t.
Sorting the email out is somewhat easier because most of his is in Dutch and most of mine is in English. But it was true even back in the day when all of it was in English. Stuff having to do with law is mine; stuff having to do with physics is his. Easy peasy.
Absolutely not.
We also have separate checking and savings accounts, but a joint account that’s just for bills and mortgage payments.
My husband and I have a joint email address. No problems with online ordering, though- he never orders online and doesn’t read email unless I tell him there’s one for him. It’s so well known that his friends start email off by saying hello to me.
A couple I know well have one email for the both of them. It’s confusing at times because I talk to both of them about separate things, and I’ll occasionally get a neutral email and won’t know who I’m talking with. So I have to ask, and remember later, then with multiple emails going back and forth…it’s just a tad annoying. They both use it the same amount. I’ve never asked them why, but I think I shall.
I don’t and I wouldn’t, but all three of us know the password to Mom’s address.
We’ll go in, clean up the spam, let her know she’s got mail. And when she can’t remember the password she can call us and say “what was I had to write here again? For the letters?”
I did once, with a not-too-computer-savvy woman. While we didn’t share an email address, she did know my password, and I was OK with that. Once while I was out of the country for a month or so, she happened to open my email account and read a message from a phony woman from some dating service. She of course thought it was real, and I had to spend what seemed like hours explaining the concept of spam to her.
I am also a passenger in the same floating vessel up on the seas of marriage with the esteemed Kalhoun. I’ve tried to drag him kicking and screaming into the electronic age, but he resists. He loves that we have email and internet access and all that, but just can’t seem to learn, mostly because he doesn’t want to spend the time on trial and error that it would take to learn it on his own, and I “go too fast” when I’m trying to teach him.
I believe we had a joint Yahoo account once solely for the purpose of handling our wedding-related correspondence, but I don’t think it would occur to either of us to have a joint account for daily correspondence purposes. We both get large amounts of junk mail on our Yahoo accounts, we both correspond with friends and family individually through Gmail, and I use my work email for a lot of daily communication with her. Trying to parse out which of us was getting email from someone, particularly since we have a number of mutual friends, would be a nightmare and completely unnecessary.
However, we both know each others’ email passwords (except for my work password, which I change on a regular basis just because I have to). We have logged into each others’ accounts by request, and it’s no big deal.
We are both in our 20’s, and we have never shared an email account. I have one at my college address (lastname@college.com) and so does she (a different college)…We also still use the email we had before we got together. I think she has had her’s since about her sophomore year of high school and I’ve had mine since my freshman year of high school. I also have a new one that I use for current things, such as applying for a job and such (it’s just lastname @server.com)
We just opened a joint checking account a few months ago, mostly because we fought with another bank for a month and then closed both accounts. The new one we opened is joint so that we can both write checks for rent if need be. It just makes those things a little easier. Can’t imagine ever having a joint email, though.
Brendon
Same here, heck even the kids have there own computers & email addresses. I’m the site admin so I set them up and monitor traffic.
Giant freakin marine and I have separate email accounts, but know each others passwords. We haven’t used them since the pre-laptop days, when one of us was out of town and would ask the homebound spouse to “check my email” for something specific and important, but we still take care to inform the other of any password or account changes. We know each others PINs, too.
I have no doubt our emails are completely private, just from total lack of interest in the details of each others friends and relatives’ lives. Anything either of us wanted to hide would be almost invisible in the barrage of glurge and gossip usually infesting our inboxes.
I currently have 975 “unread” messages in my Inbox and 3085 total (and yes, I know). MrValley has 0 unread messages and 1 read message. Needless to say, a joint account is not ever bloody likely.
We each have separate computers, and email each other appointments in Outlook, as well as interesting links, general chatter, etc.