Male here. Many years ago, I worked in an office where my supervisor, a man, was replaced with a woman with a better resume. This woman, who was approximately 10 years older than me, had the attributes of which you speak. It was very distracting to me. I found myself anticipating her presence every morning, and sneaking peaks, like a hormonally uncontrollable 14 year-old, whenever I could. She didn’t know it at the time, but she was driving me bloody insane. Whenever I had to interact with her, I became sexually aroused and uncomfortable at the same time, sometimes resulting in a partial erection, which made me extremely self conscious.
This went on for approximately 2 weeks, when I realized I was making excuses to be around her. Without thinking too deeply (I wasn’t thinking at all, to be honest), I finagled a way to have lunch with her under some pretense for work. I still don’t believe I pulled it off; believe me, I wasn’t all that smooth in those days. Anway, during our lunch, I absolutely could not stop glancing at her chest. I couldn’t tell you what the heck we talked about, but I do remember feeling like my heart was going to jump out of my chest and my temples throbbing.
After our lunch, I wasn’t productive at all and, I’m certain, got very little work done for the rest of the day. At the close of business, I waited at my desk until I saw she was preparing to leave for the day. I packed up and strode out behind her. My mind was racing, and I acted, I believe, on pure instinct at that moment, and while tapping on her shoulder and asking if she had a second, I pressed the Up button on the elevator instead of Down. We both entered the elevator and as soon as the doors closed, I turned and faced her. Next thing I knew, we were down each other’s throats.
Our relationship ultimately ended, primarily because, in my admittedly one-sided opinion, she was a very unpleasant person. And I guess the fact that she was married, with two children, could possibly have had something, in some small, barely significant measure, to do with it :rolleyes:. No, I had no idea she was married…at first. Anyhoo, it lasted as long as it did, and somewhat into the period after which I found out she was married and a mother, solely because of her physical attributes and the sex, which was the best I’d ever had.
For those needing to respond that (a) she manipulated me and I was too young, stupid, sex-crazed, or a combination to realize it, or (b) it was wrong of me to have continued to ‘date’ her after finding out about her family, don’t bother. I’ve thought and agonized over it many times, and it’s enough.
My point here is to provide a little personal perspective to the OP that I found the erect nipples of my supervisor not only sexy but overwhelmingly sexually arousing. However, I also believe such displays are inappropriate in an office environment and cannot believe there aren’t apparel solutions.