They're called nipples, Jackass!

The BBQ Pit
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My first Pit Rant!! :slight_smile:

To my coworker - It’s bad enough that I have to listen to your shitty music all day… It’s bad enough that I have to put up with stories about your exceptionally smart, cute, talented kids who, if I believe you, will obviously grow up to be so much of a better person than I am… It’s bad enough that you gross me out when you eat with your mouth open ALL FUCKING DAY LONG! But, would you PLEASE stop staring at my breasts!!! I would really like it if I didn’t feel your creepy stalker eyes imagining me naked. I guarantee you that I’m not sitting here getting excited over you, it’s just cold in here! You know, you might actually get me to answer your inane questions and stories, if you every spoke to me and NOT MY TITS! They don’t belong to you - so leave them alone fucker!

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I think you’re lying.

In order to verify you’re “story”, Misery’s Company (if that’s your real name.) I will need for you to email me lots of photographs.

You know, for proof.

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Hell, I’m staring at your tits and I can’t resist. You know why? Nipples look like a set of eyes staring right back, and guys being guys, don’t like to lose in staring contests. So, we keep staring and staring. A natural bodily reaction to continued staring is the relaxation of the facial muscles around the jaw, which causes the ‘slack-jaw’.

See? This whole ‘staring at breasts’ problem with guys is a simple misunderstanding!

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When I was hired at CompUSA a few years ago I went to HQ in Dallas for orientation. The woman who talked to us about sexual harassment, well, let’s just say she appeared to be very chilly. You’d think someone talking to us about sexual harassment would have the sense to wear a thicker bra or perhaps a thicker shirt. Maybe it was some sort of test.

I just had to share.

Marc

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Or do you mean stare?

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What? I don’t have kids or eat with my mouth open.

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My sincerest apologies to jack@ss. I meant no harm to you. I will please ask the board to disregard the title of this post, and instead think of it as “They’re called nipples, Cockwad!” :slight_smile:

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<waits expectantly for SDMB member Cockwad(registered Oct 2001) to arrive>

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All right, so you don’t like people staring at your erect nipples. But what about an occasional, casual glance? Y’know, just to see if they’re still erect.

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Hmmm, I remember I used to work occasionally with a very petite woman who was very cute and an extremely nice person, and, well, very buxom.

So: maybe this is just me, but when I’m having a conversation with someone, occasionally while I’m thinking about what the other person said, my eyes tend to break eye-contact for a sec to chew on a verbal point, staring off into space. I’m sure we all do this on occasion.

Okay, so this woman and I would always end up talking about a work-thing of some sort, strategizing about a problem to be solved, and I’d be thinking about something she just said, staring into space for a sec and I suddenly realize…

…oh Shit, I’m staring at her breasts (I wasn’t, I just happened to look down to think [really, dammit] ), and and and, and she probably thinks I’m oggling her. Um, um, um, quick, look at something else. Be a fucking professional, this not appropriate at ALL. Damn, act natural, look her in the eye, nothing’s going on.

In other words, I’m frozen for a split second, a deer in the headlights.
[sub]or maybe that’s a poor choice of words, sorry.[/sub]

…and I’d make eye contact again and continue. And now of course I’m so damned rattled, it’s hard to remember wtf I was trying to think about. And I know I am darned well not, not going to look down again for the rest of this conversation.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that a) sometimes oggling is intentional, or b) sometimes it’s coincidence. I’d walked away from those conversations embarrassed as heck at myself, and my coworker probably never noticed a thing [sub]I sure hope not…[/sub]

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Misery

I know that it must be annoying, but can’t you see that you probably can’t change the coworker, but you could take action yourself to conceal the “headlights”?

Sure, you shouldn’t have to, but if it bothers you enough to start a PIT thread, maybe you should consider personal clothing alternatives.

Now on the other hand…anyone is welcome to stare at my hard nips.

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Well, why shouldn’t she have to? Last year I went to a fancy shoe store for a pair of dress shoes. The female sales person was attractive and wearing a rather low cut shirt revealing plenty of cleavage. When I tried on a new shoe she would actually get on one knee and put the shoe on my foot. I spent a decent amount of time staring directly at her cleavage. As as per my story about the woman at the orientation being rather chilly. I admit I spent a good amount of time staring at her chest.

If you don’t like being stared at then maybe you should change the way you dress. It is one thing if it happens a few times but if it is happening on a daily basis maybe you should consider a thicker shirt or a thicker bra. If I walked around the office in tight pants sporting an erection I could hardly complain about people staring.

Hold on, let me put on my flame retardant pants. There you go, flame away.

Marc

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Well Marc, she shouldn’t have to (in a perfect world) because she should be able to expect a little professionalism from her co-worker.

Also, while you were staring at the instructer’s nips during sexual harassment training, you might have misssed hearing her try to teach that the act of staring at a person’s body parts can be considered sexual harassing behavior.

That said, I almost always stare at hard nips…can’t help myself. :slight_smile:

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i dont agree with the others that you should change the way you dress that would be giving in
why dont you stare at his dick the next time you speak to him and see how he feels about it :wink:

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If it’s cold he probably doesn’t have said dick sticking out, so to speak;)

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Bolding mine.

I remember once when I slammed my head into a steel pole. It hurt a lot, and made me want to go lie down for a while. Later on, I slammed my head into that pole again. It still hurt, and it still made me want to go lie down. Well, I kept slamming my head into that pole, because if I stopped… well… that would be giving in.

No, I’m not comparing the slamming of one’s head into a steel pole to clothing. I’m just saying that the “don’t give in” excuse is a pretty sad one. You can’t control what other people will do… only what you do. If you don’t like people staring at your breasts, but know that a certain type of clothing encourages some (albeit low-class) people to do so, then you either have to change your style of dress, or learn to accept the oggling.

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SPOOFE
like the way you put that across

but its your fucking work place and if you cant feel fucking comfortable at the place you spend half your fucking life then well that sucks
if theres a fuck head at your office you dont shift everybody else off to a different work place you throw the bastard out on his ass

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I think what really bothers you is that someone who you find disgusting is staring at you nips. Especialy an opened mouth food chewer… ewe I fucking hate that too…

If I were you, I would goto the boss and tell him/her that he made an inappropiate pass at you. and that you don’t feel comfortable working around him.

With today’s pc world that would solve your problem real quick.

Yeah, I know I’m an evil bastard. <insert evil laugh here>

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I have to laugh here.

I am constantly stared at, here in Korea (as I am a fat old whitey round-eyes, holding hands with my lady-love Astrogirl (who is Korean).)

AG does not mind the staring (it’s a cultural thing), but it bugs the hell outta me! So AG (bless her pure little heart!), knowing the staring bothered me, devised a response…

She told me one night, “Anyone who is staring at us, I’m gonna stare at his cock (the people who stare at us are invariably male) and imagine that it is TINY!”

It works, trust me!

The guys who stare at us seem to lose confidence when AG stares at their crotch with a sympathetic/pitying look…:smiley:
PS: I like nips!:slight_smile:

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If I’m to believe my Korean girlfriend, you’d be right most of the time if you made that assumption in this country. :smiley:

BTW, being a white male with long hair, I really get lots of people staring at me here.

And regarding the OP: DAMMIT!!! Next time you make a thread with the word “nipples” in the title, have the freaking decency to post lots of pics!

[Edited by Ukulele Ike on 10-10-2001 at 08:52 AM]