You’re in line to see a movie, and you are with your sweetie of 5-10 years, or you may even be married to her. Does she welcome it (or is it"accepted" behavior) for you to put your hands on her shoulder (or nuzzle her) as you are waiting to go in?
As for me, I love my SO and never miss a chance to touch her and she hasn’t complained, with this proviso: Waiting in line for a movie or eating out is okay. What is not okay, is while we are out grocery shopping. She will shrug me off then.
What’s up widdat ladies???
Is it being possessive or just loving? Worse yet, is it being exhibitionistic?
This one’s important to me. I’l keep checking back.
Weird. I like a good ass-grabbing from him anytime.
Maybe it’s because she has an unconscious thing that when you are out (the movie or dinner), it’s like a date, and romantic gestures are “acceptable” for her then. When you guys are at the grocery, it’s more “business” for her. I know when I am at the grocery store getting groped is the last thing on my mind.
Hmm, Whenever I’m in public with my girlfriend and for whatever reasons we’re not sitting together like when we goto the pub, I like to get up and play pool and she likes to sit at the bar and chat. Well, if I see her talking to some other guy I’ll make it a point to go up there and give her a little kiss or ask if she needs anything. I do that mainly just to let the guy know shes with me.
I realize this proly isn’t the most healthy behaviour in the world; but fuck it I’m just teritorial that way.
To my own defense though she is completely oblivioous to the fact that if your a woman and you are nice to a guy sometimes they get the impression that you got the “hots” for them.
It really has nothing to do with you. As stated before it’s ‘business’. When you are shopping, grocery or any other kind, you are trying to concentrate on the prices, comparing prices, what you need/don’t need. I know that it has nothing to do with you at all, she’s just concentrating.
When hubby and I are waiting in line together, we’ll hug and smooch just because. I don’t think it’s being possessive - it’s just the way we are. We smooch at home if we happen to be in the same place at the same time. The only time I don’t like the attention is when I’m trying to cook or do dishes. When I’m busy in the kitchen, I want to be left alone. But if he wants a liplock while we’re waiting to check out in WalMart or Food Lion, it works for me!
Quasi, you go grocery shopping with your SO? Man are you whipped. I just send my wife to the store with a list (an extremely well defined list, or she’ll find a way to get the wrong thing).
Actually, I used to go with her but it always seemed to lead to a fight over something stupid. After reading your post; I see that she was just marking her territory. Maybe your SO is just a little more subtle.
I really like to have the physical aspect of things…I don’t mind cuddling no matter what the time, and have no problem with ducking into a closet somewhere for a while, but maybe that’s just hormones. Anyway, Quasimodem, I would have no problem with your behavior, even if it went a little further…but if it makes your girlfriend uncomfortable, you need to respect that. As for the dates v. shopping thing, on dates she feels it is more of a romantic setting, and therefore ok for romantic gestures.
Dang, I’m all about the cuddling. I have the best time shopping with my bf. It’s almost like we get to “play house” for a short while (we live in seperate cities). Sometimes I think we make other people in the store jealous, but fuck it. If I wanna hold my SO, I’ll hold him! I don’t think it’s possessive at all.
My SO and I will have a hand or two on each other as long as we’re within reach. We’re just like that. But we do tend to refrain from tonsil-hockey in public.
Ah, this is called ‘Public Display of Affection’ or PDA for short. I like to hold hands mostly cause I can’t hear where they are & I don’t want to step on them.
Grocery shopping is a job. It’s not fun, and most people just want to get it over with. How can we get on with the job if somebody’s got their face in our neck?
When you’re standing in line, you’re waiting for the line to move. So you might as well put the time to use.
Okay, Shakes, I’m gonna tell you what I’ve told Dr.J before: Acting like another dog just pissed on your favorite tree is decidedly NOT attractive. Yeah, coming to check on your lady is sweet, when you’re doing it just because. When you’re jsut warning other guys off, it’s kind of creepy.
Oh, and I agree with the “business” theory. If you’ve got other stuff on your mind, hugging and kissing can be way down there on your list of things to do. Hmmm, maybe that’s why Dr.J gets so cranky when I swat his ass with a box of cereal befor dumping it in the cart…
CrazyCatLady I realize what I do isn’t exactly healthy as I said before. However I don’t scare people off as you sugest. (although I can see why you might think that from my former post) My GF is free to talk to anyone she wants. I just want them to know that shes with me.
Its been my experience that once a guy finds out a girl is with some one, they’ll lose intrest and move on to the next girl they think is single. :shrugs shoulders: heck I’d proly’ do the same if I were single.
In line at a movie (you have to stand in a line that’s longer than 3 minutes?) or out at a restaraunt, you are among people who in general are out doing romantic, couple-type things, with the exception of the line for SpyKids2. Touching and an occasional nuzzle are fine in that context, but extended tonsil-hockey is not (that’s for bars!).
But the grocery store is the place for families and elderly folks and people in a hurry who aren’t happy about standing in line while their ice cream melts. Parents don’t want their kids to see people necking in line. But putting hands on shoulders? A quick smooch? Holding hands? No problem. Sure, you’re going to make some people wistful, but as long as you are not making out, I think a little gentle PDA is fine.
We kiss in public all the time (and we’re OLD-ish). Once he pulled me into the “kissing tent” in the camping dept. at Sears. We have kissing steps and kissing plants and even a kissing camera at the mall. We don’t care, and either should anyone else.
Oops, maybe too much information. lol