I missed his birthday. Well, actually, I’ve missed 50 of his birthdays, owing to the fact that I was relinquished and didn’t grow up with my birth family.
However, I have two brothers and a sister. Have met one brother (recently), and am meeting the other brother and sister very soon. And I’m very excited.
BUT, both my brother and my sister have summer birthdays, and since I’ve missed a whole bunch of their birthdays already–only all of them–I want to arrive with presents. I’m not very flush at the moment so, obviously, it’s the thought that counts.
And it’s the thought that’s making my head ache. I’m thinking something whimsical, like toy trucks/dolls, then I think no, that’s too cutesy . . . or something.
Maybe a blimp? I happen to have one. I wonder if I could get on a plane with it. I’m pretty sure I’d have to buy the helium once I got there.
My sister is equally a problem, what to get her? I don’t even know what kind of gifts people buy their siblings, once they’re adults. Or for that matter when they’re kids.
(My own sons who were close in age tended to buy some toy THEY wanted as a gift for their brother. They all did this.)
I think I really can’t just show up empty-handed. I have to take SOMETHING.
FWIW, I knew about my older brother, as my adoptive mother mentioned him starting when I was pretty young. It really drove me crazy because I was an only child and I desperately wanted siblings. But I didn’t know about the other two until recently; they didn’t know about me at all, although my older brother remembers his mom going off to the hospital and then being told the baby died.
But here’s the thing: they all grew up together, so they know how to do the sibling thing. They got to fight in the back seat of the car on long trips and tell on each other and criticize each other’s boyfriends/girlfriends and share the same secret childhood language and inside jokes. Whereas I’m on the outside and always have been.
Gee, and I somehow think the right presents will fix everything.