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This isn’t about getting myself rated by Dopers, but here’s a picture of me as Medusa for Halloween.
Also, I’m 5’4" and skinny, which doesn’t help.
Anyway, this is all very interesting and is making me feel better about being cute. Carry on.
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Cute is much more fun than “just” pretty, and from the pictures, you fit that to a T. 
Björk is cute. Kirsten Dunst is pretty. Salma Hayek is beautiful.
[QUOTE=Sapo]
Cute: I like you but my friends will find you ugly and tease me about it.
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Nope. Not even. Oh, the above may also be true in some rare cases, but that’s not the real deal.
Cute is more along the lines of “you’re more attractive to me than I can account for. Must be something in addition to your looks.” Call it quirkiness, as other have, or call it something else, but there’s a certain extra to ‘cute’ that raises a person’s looks up beyond the objectively observable.
Nice post by Tranquilis.
I’m a small gal, with curly red hair, and that seems to have me disposed to the land of perpetual Cute, yet, there is the occassional Pretty, once or twice Beautiful. And, in wonderful conversation, sometimes Smart, too. As it’s all in an unravelling state now agewise, I just have to laugh at the whole thing. That’s been a nice development, mentally.
But, I was struck in an intense conversation while visiting Germany, and a really great guy talking to. He leaned over, and said, “You, my dear, are so wonderfully charming.” Charming! Ain’t that much mo’better than Cute? Serves the same purpose, but not used so much here. and, it should be, more appropriate.
[QUOTE=Mirror Image egamI rorriM]
So for a while I was in this really dysfunctional relationship. I was depressed and had low self esteem, and I put up with a lot of shit for a lot longer than I should have. Anyway, one of the things he said was that I was cute, not pretty. This did not help my self esteem.
The question is: do you agree with him? Are there cute girls and pretty girls only, or is there some overlap?
Personally, I think there is overlap. And I am also starting to be ok with being cute, because a few people whose opinions I really value (and who are not jerks) have told me I’m pretty too. I have also been treated for my depression and have kicked that loser to the curb.
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It was a raw and empty manipulative statement…
He did not find you pretty, cute or anything.. he only found you as some one he could manipulate to meet his needs.
By saying you were “cute” it meant you were only a 6.5 on his “scale”.. you didn’t meet up…
Can you smell the BS?
My wife is not a physically beautifully woman.. By the time I was 20, I LEARNED that Beauty starts within, and Ugly goes all the way to the bone.
My wife is large, looks ordinarily, and makes me happy on a day to day basis that I was lucky enough to meet her. Why/ Because she is foolish enough to see beyond my simple looks and silly eccentricities. I love her as she is, and she loves me as I am.. cute, pretty, ugly, does NOt enter into it. We see and celebrate the beauty and uniquness of each other.
Cute.. that is a nice term for a kitty/puppy…
YOU are a human being.. look for the beauty within others, and expect them to see it within you, no matter HOW it manifests!
Regards
FML
I think you would look better if you let your hair grow out.
I agree with FML, he was manipulating you, and frankly you deserve better.
Yeah, you are cute, but he didn’t mean that the way I would. You have a great, engaging smile, your pictures show that you have a sense of humor and I’ll bet you’re a blast to be around.
Cute + smart + funny = Beautiful. It’s from inside too. In fact mostly.
And, FWIW, I’ve always seen your user name and wished I’d thought of that.
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Ginger, Jennifer and Inara are all pretty.
Maryanne, Bailey and Kaylee are all cute.
Guess which set always wins the preference polls?
Revel in your cuteness, IME the cute girls are almost always more beautiful, from the inside out, which is what counts.
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?? Who are Inara and Kaylee?
Neeeevermind!!
Cute and Pretty are not mutually exclusive; they’re two sides of the same coin. I tend to use “cute” and “hot” as opposite poles rather than “cute” and “pretty” - they’re the two main varieties of attractiveness, and they’re equal but different.
For example, two women can be equally attractive, while one is cute and one is hot. One of these women is not more attractive than the other, but they’re attractive in completely different ways.
From the recent picture thread: hot vs. cute . These two women are perfectly, equally attractive in completely different ways. One looks like a sexy, shot-pounding, all-night-dancing sorority chick type, and the other looks like an adorable, apple-cheeked girl-next-door who wants to go see Amelie with you and knit you a sweater.
I tend to be significantly more attracted to “cute” types.
A pretty girl can be cute and a cute girl can be pretty depending on how she presents herself at that particular time. Suppose a pretty girl goes to a baseball game with you and she wears your baseball jersey, a cap, and shares a snowcone with you out of a little batter’s helmet. That’s damn cute. Suppose you invite your cute girl next door to a dinner party and she comes out with her hair up, make-up on, clingly cocktail dress, etc and she definitely left the cute arena into the pretty, beautiful, or even hot arena. As for myself, I prefer the cute girl, since that more accurately fits the description that most people give of me.
Aren’t we getting a tad picky with the whole hot/cute thing? I mean, if it’s something I like to look at, then I can call it “gorthok”, so long as I like it.
Also, Miss Image, what the ex did was a pretty mean thing. He’s a dick for doing so and, for some reason, saw it fit to look past your obvious attractiveness. It’s okay…I’ll keep you company if need be…
I’d rather be called pretty than cute, and I’d rather be called beautiful than pretty. But I wouldn’t take it as an insult if someone said I was cute.
To the OP, it sounds like he was just mean. Just because you are one doesn’t mean you can’t also be the other. And part of being in a loving relationship is helping the other person feel attractive by showing them love, giving compliments, and generally not tearing down their self-esteem.
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From the recent picture thread: hot vs. cute . These two women are perfectly, equally attractive in completely different ways. One looks like a sexy, shot-pounding, all-night-dancing sorority chick type, and the other looks like an adorable, apple-cheeked girl-next-door who wants to go see Amelie with you and knit you a sweater.
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That second girl looks like the “before” in one of those ugly duckling movies. Not and ugly duckling at all, but take off the glasses and let the hair down, put on some makeup and wow, she’s suddenly the hottest girl at Sweet Valley High.
I’m called “cute” a lot. How I take it really depends on how it’s being said. I’ve had a guy use it in the way that Sapo was talking about–I could tell he wasn’t really attracted to me, and he was a little embarrassed about bringing me out with his friends. He was like, “yeah, you’re cute.” As if he was trying to come up with something nice he could say about me without having to lie. You could just hear the backhandedness in that “compliment.” Ugh.
Then again, sometimes, it’s genuine, and it’s great. I had a friend tell me that before we first met, he had seen me around and thought I was “totally cute.” And my husband will say, “you are so cute!” I can tell that they aren’t using “cute” as a fallback word, it’s just the best word for how they see me.
So I can go either way…but I’m usually happy with being called cute. 
