I think that I’m just going to change my sig line to “What robby said”. Great posts by everyone so far.
City Water and Sewer:
You pay for what you use. Fees pay for water and wastewater treatment costs. Further, sewer fees are typically a function of “water in”, so if you water your lawn, you pay a corresponding sewer fee for that; that’s why a lot of folks meter their pools separately. Don’t like fluoridation? Tough, suck it up, you’re getting it. However, bear in mind that water treatment plants are held to higher drinking water standards than that bottled water you bought this morning.
Other than that, it’s painless. Water comes in, sewage goes out, you pay the bill. The only cost you may need to worry about is if something happens to your service connections (the water or sewer lines on your property). If something happens to the main lines (the lines in the street or public way), that’s not your problem.
Private Water and Sewer:
I don’t know if you will face similar requirements, but: In Massachusetts, all homes with septic systems must be inspected at the time of sale to ensure that they are functional and do not meet the failure criteria of Title V, CMR 15. Any repairs to the system must be in accordance with Title V; similarly, any later addition to the house that affects the capacity of the system (typically a new bedroom) will probably require a re-evaluation of the septic system. If it was properly sized with additional capacity, you may be fine.
Nowadays, there are regulations dictating how close a septic system may be to a well. Those may not have been observed in older houses. Verify that the distances are adequate. Also, remember that you may not expand your septic system if it will then encroach on a neighbor’s wellfield.
As stated before, a well pump stops when the power goes out. It happened to me in my vacation cottage last summer. If you don’t have an emergency generator, then you are out of water. Typically, septic systems are gravity and are unaffected by power, but verify if there are grinder pumps or ejector pumps which will be power dependent.
The septic system flows from your final waste pipe to the inlet of your septic tank. This is where the biological action takes place. If your system functions properly, the only thing that goes out the tank outlet pipe is liquid effluent. That then goes to a distribution box that evenly distributes the effluent through pipes to percolate below grade. So try not to give the system any more work to do than necessary. Limit what you put through your garbage disposal. Low-flow toilets are your friend, as are low-use washing machines.
ETA: Forgot to mention, the septic tank vents back through your waste pipe to the house vent. If you have a trap on the line before it leaves the house, you may need a “candy cane” type vent to release gases. Obviously it is preferable to do this through the vent at the top of your house.
Eventually grease or other “indigestible” products will build up in your tank, and you will need to have it pumped. It’s a function of your lifestyle and your diet more than anything else.
Assuming that all is functioning well, your costs for the well will be the power to the pump, and any water treatment you elect. The septic system costs are for pumping.
One caveat, however: If the Town or County runs water and sewer lines up your street, you will be assessed betterment charges for this work, irrespective of whether you choose to connect or not. If you elect to connect, there will also be a payment for that. The main line contractor will usually have a line item for house connections if you have the work done at the time of the work in the street. Some towns around here are now requiring subdivision contractors to provide these dry lines in their streets, even if there are no immediate plans to connect that subdivision, just to avoid the unpopularity of these fees.