Proposed People of the ‘Dope: Did you talk to your "intended" about marriage, before you actually did the proposal?

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Hmm, two threads about proposals in two weeks. I’ll point you to my previous answer, which seems trenchant:

Married Men of the 'Dope: Did you ask your future wife's dad for permission to marry her?

Are you kidding? I barely asked her. We’d known each other six weeks, were having a conversation about a piece of jewelry I said I wanted to buy her, and all of a sudden she said, “Was that a marriage proposal?” and I had to think “Wait, what did I just say? Oh, right, ‘…and I want to spend the rest of my life with you’.” My uber-articulate response was something like “Um, I guess so?” We’re 38.5 years in, so we’re thinking it might work out. We did call her parents afterward, woke her mother …