Thanks for reminding me of that one, I had heard it but didn’t think of it in this context.
However, it’s not homophobic. It’s about straight sex.
There’s nothing inherently gay about what we’re discussing here either. Either gender could play either role.
Logically it makes no real sense for the Urbandictionary definition to be intended as a homophobic slur, but it at least could be used that way, even if that’s nonsensical.
The Cinderella joke however is specifically hetero. It can’t be the origin of the judge’s view about the alleged meaning of the slur.
The word “cocksucker” is usually intended as homophobic but I’m willing to bet that the vast majority of cocksucking is in a heterosexual context.
Followup - same judge found liable in damages for one of his earlier efforts
and $50,000 in exemplary (punitive) damages awarded. To put that in perspective, while I understand that in the US punitive damages are rare (2%?), in Australia they are beyond rare. This is about as close to the Federal Court bending Vasta over its knee and giving him a walloping as you would ever see.
It’s almost certainly a reference to the nursery rhyme, given the guy’s name is Pete and it’s repeated - “Pete, Pete, pumkin-eater”. That is to say it seems to me the choice of the slur seems to be inspired by the man’s name and the nursery rhyme connection.
As to the word being a slur, I follow the judge’s logic in the decision where he quotes the response about name-calling. If it weren’t mutually understood as a slur of some sort, that statement wouldn’t have elicited a remark about name-calling, there would have been confusion about calling up nursery rhymes.
Regarding the meaning of the slur, I’ve never heard of before, but it could be a fairly local Australian thing.
As to the judge saying it’s homophobic, without knowing the history of the term as a slur it’s hard to say. Perhaps it comes from a “sheltered” perspective that assumes only gay men would engage in analingus. I mean, “Why would straight men do that?”
Um, because women have anuses?
But yeah, I suppose.
I’m very much local. I’ve never heard of it. No one in my firm had heard of it. Neither party in the case had heard of it. The subject of the slur made clear they weren’t contending that it was a homophobic slur.