Putting my cat down today

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Been putting it off, first due to hoping she might get better then due to worry over my DD’s reaction and then due to the expense of it. I have no excuse now, and she has a 5 pm appointment for an eternal ash nap at the vet right around the corner.

Poor (fucking) thing is miserable and making everyone else miserable as well. None of us currently regret her demise at this point…she is incontinent, gets up on and SHITS all over the table, counters, stove, backpacks left on the floor, the couch, the carpet, my PURSE, etc, etc…both due to sudden lack of control AND passive agressive tendencies. We have to keep all doors closed (bedrooms, bathroom…else she takes the chance to get in and SHIT all over everything, the freshly laundered bathmats in general…her favorite place to “make her statement” :mad:)

She is chronically miserable in general. And making it her mission in life to share the misery.

I have worried that my daughter, 11, might be emotionally troubled by the big event, but I rest assured now that she is as disgusted and convinced of the wisdom of the decision as myself and my 18 yr old son are.

We watched Pet Semetary last night (no master plan, just coincidence) but it played perfectly into the theme of, to quote King and the screenplay, “Sometimes dead is better.” Um, YEAH! :rolleyes:

And in that film, one of the characters spoke of how she reacted to the death of her terminally ill sister with laughter and relief…yeah…not ONLY because the one suffering the death is finally out of THEIR suffering, but everyone else is as well.
Exactly…no reason to feel guilt over it, but she did/many do.

I went through this with my late DH…by the time he died, it was a relief, not only because HE was suffering so much but because WE were as well as a result. It didn’t change the horrible grief, it just made me feel terribly guilty at times on top of it. :(:o Yes, I PRAYED/HOPED for him to fucking die, already…he was no longer himself, no longer enjoying life to any degree, and it ripped me to shreds. Why feel guilt over it? But you tend to anyway. Stupid.

I feel zero remorse over the death of this cat…she is old and sick and I have already spent hundreds trying to diagnose/fix her. And OBVIOUSLY she is “just a cat”, and so in no way comparable to the loss of a spouse or child (not to me anyway).

I look forward to cleaning the damn carpets (so our apartment won’t reek of her shit and piss as it has begun to, despite our efforts at cleaning up her messes) and no longer being burdened with a neurotic, miserable beast.

Of course I will miss her (as she WAS for most of her years) but overall, all things considered, I will feel relief and want to perform snoopy dances. :smiley:

Yeah, I am a cold, heartless bitch and am tired of putting up with the mess and bother of this animal. I also actually love this disgusting, repulsive beast and can’t stand to let her continue in such misery.

So anyway, it’s goodbye to Ginger/Gin-Gin, the stray I took in a decade ago and moved across country rather than dumping her/taking her to the pound. Fare thee well.

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Um wow. Good. I guess?

I feel terrible for the cat to have been allowed to live so long that it became a hated burden. Talk about an awful way to end a life. This post is terribly sad to me.

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I came in to post my usual condolences, but now I don’t know what to say, except to agree that this is sad. Why did you let it continue this far?

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I’m so sorry for you, for letting Ginger get to the point that you’re glad to see her gone.
I’m so sorry for Ginger, too. I’m sure she doesn’t deserve to be remembered this way.
This is so very sad.
I send your family my condolences.

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Me too.

Its one thing to wait wayyy too long to have a pet put down because you can’t bring yourself to do so because you love it “too much”.

Its another to drag it on so long you hate the damn beast and can’t wait to finally do it.

:frowning:

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It was a great relief when our cat was put down. It had gotten to be really gross. I can totally understand how you feel.

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Zombie Kitty down TMI

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Your thread was handled differently than this one, though. I just read yours, and it was obvious that you still cared. This one leaves me totally confused.

My condolences for the cat’s memory.

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Sorry you had to spend a couple of hundred bucks I guess. :rolleyes:

P.S. Don’t get any more pets.

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I’m sorry to hear about your trials with your kitty.

I hope you and she both find relief with her passing. Your kids will be fine as long as they are a part of it and it’s not a surprise like when my friend got home from school to find out her dog was dead in an, “oh, by the way, I had the dog put down today,” kind of way. That’s traumatic. Being part of the decision and being able to say good-bye - that’s OK.

Sometimes we don’t figure out until it’s too late that a decision should have been made sooner. It’s regrettable, but something to learn from in any case.

Sorry.

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This was unnecessary. Maybe I’m feeling maudlinly sentimental in the holiday season, maybe it’s just that I too have a cat who can be a passive-aggressive little bitch, or maybe I relate to getting angry and sounding mean when I’m really hurting.

Managing an incontinent pet is stressful and, yeah, disgusting. Even if you know it’s because they are sick.

In any case, to the OP, I’m sorry it’s come to this for you and your pet. I hope your daughter handles it okay and learns from it.

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I think the OP cared for the cat, otherwise she wouldn’t have put time and money into trying to treat her problem. It’s sad that it got to the point where they resented the cat for them to decide on euthanasia but it’s a difficult decision, many people feel that if they just give the pet a little more time they might start to improve. If the pets still active and eating owners think there may still be hope.

Don’t beat up on the OP, I think the phrasing of the post was a way of venting. She probably feels guilty enough about the decision and resenting the cat for its illness.

To the OP: My sympathies on your loss. With a little time I hope you can remember the better times with your cat.

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Me too. No judgment here. Our 18-year-old cat died last summer, after being unwell for a couple of months – off balance and pooping outside the box. We didn’t even consider a trip to the vet. Car trips stressed him terribly, and we figured the choices would be expensive treatment or euthanasia. If the cat had been in pain, we would have done it, but there was no pain behavior, and he was eating and drinking as usual. We let him have as much lap time as he wanted and he died in the recliner – the one with heat and massage.

So maybe I’m a coldhearted bitch too, but I wasn’t sorry to see him go – he’d had a good long life, longer than most cats and longer than many people.

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You’re absolutely right. I was an ass. I am sorry for what I said. :frowning: