I finally caved because I nearly didn’t hear about a bridal shower for a niece because I wasn’t on Facebook. I just happened to overhear a mention of the shower at a family gathering and was confused, and asked about it. “I posted it on Facebook…”
(Well, OK, that’s what I tell people about why I finally caved, but I really wanted to play the FB game Dragon Age: Legends to get unlockable items for my Dragon Age 2 game. I don’t post updates on the game to my wall, and I don’t spam friends to do stuff for me. You do get bonuses if friends of yours also play the game, but I have enough friends that play it anyway.)
The problem is, my husband has tried to invite that niece and others to get-togethers via Facebook, and gotten the response, “I don’t really use Facebook much.” :smack: More like she pays attention to stuff she’s interested in. Just say, “Sorry, I’m an airhead sometimes” or “I was so busy at work that week that I didn’t check it,” rather than claiming you don’t use it then expecting people who don’t even have an account to magically check it.
With judicious use of privacy settings I’m pretty happy on Facebook so far. I have one friend who seems to both tweet updates to Facebook and use an app to put the same update on (like for what he’s watching on TV or whatever), and another couple who are games-happy (but those go away fast with blocking), and one chain letter on my wall.
Huh - it’s almost as if a telephone or e-mail offers a form of convenience to you. Weird.
“Must”? No one said anything about “must” until right now. No one “must” have a telephone or an e-mail account - but lots of people do because they offer a convenience. As for wanting that particular person as a friend, there aren’t any rules for that either. I certainly hope you’re capable of choosing who you want to be your friend or not.
If you still don’t “get” Facebook, then you’re just trying to be difficult.
Seriously, not being interested in or wanting to use Facebook makes perfect sense to me. Claiming not to “get” Facebook or understand why anyone else would want to use it seems like a weird form of snobbery or Ludditism or something. Especially if you make a special point out of coming into Facebook discussions just to mention how you “don’t get it”.
Facebook is my primary form of social interaction these days. It’s rude to say that someone MUST be on it, but it’s useful for keeping up on little details of other people’s lives.
But do learn how to block the game and other crap you don’t want, make sure you take a thorough look at your security settings and be very wary of any links people post directly onto your wall, especially anything claiming to show you who’s been looking at your profile and suchlike. Facebook is home to a lot of malware too, but you can avoid it if you don’t madly click on things.
Maybe I wasn’t clear… I don’t want Facebook. I never said anything about anybody else using face book. I don’t care if they have Facebook or not. Somebody elses Facebook use is not mine to worry about. Its not for me. I don’t understand why this makes people so angry. “I don’t get it” means just that…I don’t get it. Its not a judgement against your personal preferences.
There is a practical difference between “I don’t want that” and “I don’t get that”. “I don’t get that” means “I don’t understand that”. We don’t care if you don’t want Facebook. We’re just pointing out that not understanding Facebook is silly, as you clearly “understand” the telephone or e-mail.
Perhaps the reason people get upset is that you come into a thread about the site just to tell us that you don’t “get” it? What’s the point in saying this if you don’t need someone explaining it to you?
do exactly what you would do in real life- pretend you didn’t notice the invitations and pokes. some people enjoy those activities, some don’t. You might actually find yourself enjoying some of those games one day.
You need Facebook because it is the most technologically efficient medium today for wasting the maximum amount of your time by sharing with the largest number of people who care the least about you the most insignificant things in your life.
On the other hand, if you do use Facebook, you won’t be able to drop in and thread-shit on Facebook threads with smug commentary like this, so it’s a trade-off.
I’ve had two “pokes” pending poke-backs on my FB page for a year. One from a woman in Australia that I only “friended” so I could get my neighbor count up in a game I was playing; I don’t really know her, so I’m not poking her back. The second is from one of my nieces; I think it’s just creepy if it could be said that my niece and I are poking each other.
That’s fine, and if he had shared it in a thread called “Bitch about Facebook” or “What’s your general opinion of Facebook” then it wouldn’t be thread-shitting.
plus you have the opportunity to make a stupid mistake once (i.e. posting something embarrassing) and then, for the rest of your life, worry about your boss or your grandmother seeing it.
I don’t post updates on the game to my wall, and I don’t spam friends to do stuff for me. You do get bonuses if friends of yours also play the game, but I have enough friends that play it anyway.)