Question for daddies of girls - Guys checking out your daughters

In My Humble Opinion
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At lunch today a co-worker and I were discussing being the daddies of girls. The topic got around to how we would feel about seeing guys ‘checking out’ our daughters when they get a little older.

Anyways, he stated that he did not think that it would bother him. He does not mind it when his wife is ogled, so he did not think that it would be any different if it were his daughter. I felt that there is a BIG difference between the two, and while I actually enjoy it when guys ogle my wife, I have a completely different attitude when it is my little girl. I am used to my wife being the object of lust (mine), so having others view her as an object of lust does not bother me. I am not used to viewing my daughter as an object of lust, so my impulse might be to kill the guy.

The topic for discussion is this:
If you have daughters who are hotties, how do you feel about seeing guys checking them out? Also, how do you feel when guys ogle your wife? Is there any reason why you think you might feel either way?

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Sounds like you and your daughter will have an interesting relationship when it comes time for boys in her life.

Face it, everyone gets checked out (some more often than others). Your wife, your daughter, your son, you, your mom, etc. Nothing wrong with looking. Groping or copping a feel or making unwanted advances? That’s another matter.

So why are you restricting this to your daughter? You have no problem with your son getting ogled by guys?

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I’d have a problem right now, as littlecat is 8. I know she will be the object of testosterone-crazed semen messengers in due time, but can’t that wait a few years, eh?

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The idea of LilSnoopy hitting puberty makes another one of MrSnoopy’s hairs go gray.

Ain’t gonna be pretty. She’s gonna be a knockout.

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Hope this doesn’t violate any coppyright rules is so, mods, sorry and pls remove.

RULES FOR DATING MY DAUGHTER:

Rule One:
If you pull into my driveway and honk you’d better be delivering a package, becasue you’re sure not picking anything up.

Rule Two:
You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter’s body, I will remove them.

Rule Three:
I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don’t take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose this compromise: YOu may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes to big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, infact come off during the course of you date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.

Rule Four:
I’m sure you’ve been told that in today’s world, sex without utilizing a “Barrier method” of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrrier, and I will kill you.

Rule Five:
It is usually understood that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk aobut sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my duaghter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is: early."

Rule Six:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.

Rule Seven:
As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process than can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. INstead of just standing there why don’t you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?

Rule Eight:
The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there is darkness. PLaces where there is danceing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient tamperature is warm enough to introduce my duaghter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything othere than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka - zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which features chan saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.

Rule Nine:
Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.

Rule Ten:
Be afraid,. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy near Hanoi. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveways you should exit the car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car - there is no need for you to come inside. The camoflaged faceat the window is mine.

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I’d be pointing them out to her just to make her blush. But I think I’ll be that kind of evil father no one wants.

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SHAKES - most of that is from W. Bruce Cameron’s book 8 Simple Rules for Dating my Teenage Daughter. The rest of it was added by internet wits. I heartily recommend the book to any daddies (and mommies too), but if I were you I’d ask the mods to take your post down rather than bring the wrath of the copyright deities down on yourself.

Now, about the OP: I am not a daddy, but I am married to one. Together we have a daughter who, WITHOUT OUR PERMISSION, recently started looking an awful lot like a Hot Teenage Chickie-Babe. To be honest, the change from little darling to hot babe pretty much slipped under our radar, even considering the sudden boobage bloom. We didn’t actually notice she was a stunner until we saw boys at the mall drooling and doing very odd things to catch her eye. The WryGuy’s extremely reasonable reaction to this was to announce that from here on out, she was to be locked in her room during daylight hours. One boy had the sheer nerve to actually ask if he could be her boyfriend. I’m not sure what the WryGuy said, but we haven’t seen the kid since.

In short, you may THINK you won’t mind guys ogling your little girl, but you will. Believe me, you will.

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My own girl is just 2 years old but if she turns out to be like Mum…I won’t be able to sleep the next 1000 years. I’ll send her to a cloistered convent tomorrow.

It’s the problem of being a guy, you know what other guys are thinking. I remember what I told my sisters when they hit puberty (they’re 8 and 9 years younger than I): guys only want one thing and will do anything, I mean ANYTHING to get it.

Just in case, my revolver is in perfect working condition and I just have had the sights tuned.

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I’ve seen guys checking out my daughter - I get a bit of a kick out of it. She’s often not aware of it.

I know it really bugs my husband - he’s not ready for his baby to be a woman. Too late. She’s 18 and in a few months, she’ll be off to the University of Central Florida and to the start of life on her own.

Naturally, according to Dad, no one is ever going to be good enough for her, but a UCF-educated engineer would come close, as Dad is UCF educated and an engineer… :smiley:

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I’m the father of a 9 month old girl who is absolutely adorable. I can tell you with complete certainty that on the first day she starts dating, my Black Belt certificate I have hanging in my office will be moved to the living room and be located on the wall right next to where her date will be sitting and waiting.

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A just turned 16 on Sat. Plenty attractive, IMO, but I may be biased.

Part of this depends on the extent to which the girl makes herself ogle-able. For example, A wears no makeup, and she likes her jeans baggy, her shorts long, and her tee-shirts well over her belly. Nevertheless, boys being the homone crazed single-minded sex maniacs that they are, they still check her out. (And they are so hysterically obvious about it!)

We talk all the time, and I’m confident she’s not getting fucked and/or fucked up. So I see it mainly as a source of amusement, and a source of confidence for her.

I hope I handle things as gracefully when she starts having sex…

What I REALLY get a kick out of is seeing girls check out my 14 yr old son C! Who is ENTIRELY clueless about such things. When he meets the chick who enjoys paintballing and D&D, things will get interesting…

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Good question, Horseflesh. I restricted it to my daughter and wife because that was the topic of conversation that prompted the post, and I wanted to get other people’s viewpoints on it. Now that I think about it, it would not bother me if my sons were ogled by either sex. Also, I should clarify that the ogling I meant was the gotta-get-me-some-o’-that type of look, and not just an appreciative glance her way.

The lil’ piratess is 14 now, going on 21. The really scary thing is that I met my wife when we were 14, and I know what she was like as a teenager. Yikes!

Even worse, I know what I was like as a teenager. :eek: Where’s my heart medicine?

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I was given a box of shotgun shells at my daughter’s baby shower. I’d sure hate to see perfectly good shot go to waste.

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I think it would do some of you folks a world of good to stop thinking of your daughters (and other women) exclusively as sexual prey and start thinking of them as sexual carnivores in their own right who will enjoy bringing down some prey of their own.

Just MHO.

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AHunter3- I can’t speak for anyone else but the thought of my 15 yr old daughter as a sexual carnivore is just wrong! She will always be my little girl. Maybe I would feel different if I had a son??

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Well, as the father of several daughters, I stand in the “Touch them and die” camp. But they eventually must leave the nest, and you just have to trust that you have raised them well and that they will think before they act.

Then you go have many shots of bourbon trying to not think about some scumbag (all boys are scumbags!) with my daughters…

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Oh please. I sure hope that most of these posts are jokes. And since we’re all about fighting ignorance here, let me break the news to you: Unless your daughters are in the 5%-10% minority, they will do things that you wouldn’t ever imagine. I’m married with a child now, but I remember going out with the girls with over-protective parents. I also remember the ones with parents that didn’t give a crap. Know what? They basically acted the same. Some of the things that they liked to do made me blush, and would’ve made their parents shoot themselves. And then they’d get home, act innocent and the parents never found out a thing.

In the case of sex, I’ve learned that the nature vs. nurture battle is almost always won by nature.

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That’s just crazy talk ! :wink:

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OK. I am the father of a hottie. A gorgeous 19 year old college freshman who is also a straight-A student. Blond, long legs and shapely. She’s a killer in a bikini.

Obviously, she gets ogled continuously. I’ve seen boys turn their heads so fast I thought they’d get whiplash.

I also have a 21 year old son, so I can relate to both sides of this question.

To the point of the OP, this behavior doesn’t bother me. She’s bright, mature, and stronger than most of the boys due to a life of gymnastics and swimming. If a boy would’ve crossed her at some point, she’d have simply physically trashed him.

When she first hit puberty, I found the attention she was getting humorous. Then it became so commonplace that I barely noticed anymore.

It obviously helps that I trust her deeply, and she’s given me little reason to doubt this trust. (Well, there was that incident with the liquor bottles in the back seat of her car, but that got resolved to my satisfaction.) It also helps that she keeps good company. The boys and girls she chooses as friends are pretty responsible. It would be a huge stretch to call any of the boys a scumbag.

Is she now, or was she in High School having sex? Probably. In spite of what we want to not happen, boys and girls will be boys and girls together. Similar to not thinking about your parents having sex, it’s best not to think too deeply about such things.

Prepare them the best you can, and pray they make good choices.

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Put it this way. I’m a 16 year old guy. I am a mature, responsible and respectful fellow, if I do say so myself. If I wa treated the way you guys are talking about (if you are indeed serious,) I would be pissed. Lighten up, Francis.