A few years ago, I posted regarding how we were told our son was looking at being unusually tall, and given options in case we wanted to to anything to either slow his rate of growth, or induce his growth spurt early, to take a couple of inches off his final adult height.
He’s looking at being about 6’7.
He has just turned 14, and is 5’9 1/2, and I can’t stress this enough, has not yet had his adolescent growth spurt. My brother had his around age 16, and grew six inches in one year. The boychik had a toddler growth spurt, and grew six inches from 12 months to 24 months. So he is absolutely capable of six inches in a year.
He grew two inches last year. We are buying new clothes that are baggy on him so we don’t have to buy him new ones four months later. That was going on for a while. If we didn’t have lots of cousins to give him hand-me-downs, we’d go broke on his clothes-- except now he’s taller than all his cousins. We buy everything but his dress clothes at Goodwill these days. He’s built like a refrigerator, and hit the big 2-0-0 in weight this year as well.
Thing is, DH was almost this tall at 14, and never really had a growth spurt, and topped out at 6’2. We’re still kinda holding out hope for that-- except the boychik looks just like my brother, and even has mannerisms that are like my brother’s (drives DH crazy). I don’t actually look a whole lot like my brother-- in fact, we even occasionally got asked if we were adopted-- so it’s not that my son looks like me. My brother always looked like one of my father’s cousins and my mother’s mother, had a child together. And now that’s what my son looks like. They both were very tall. My grandmother was 5’9, which was awfully tall for a woman born in Slovakia in 1917. Her father was well over 6’. There are a few very light-haired people in that part of the very Jewish family, too, so I wonder if we got a few Scandinavians mixed in at some point.
Anyway, my question: I’m just wondering: among men who are very tall, say, over 6’2, what were your growth patterns in late childhood and adolescence? Did you all have a growth spurt? Did of you skip it, just have steady growth, and still end up very tall anyway?
I realize if this is the worst thing I have to worry about, I’m doing pretty well, and there are much worse problems than being 6’7, but I’m still worried about nutrition when he’s growing this much-- he’s hungry all the time, it’s expensive to feed him, but I don’t want give him a lot of cheap, empty calories, and get him in the habit of eating that kind of food. He’s klutzy because he’s growing so fast, and he gets growing pains. He occasionally gets “How’s the weather up there?” and is shy, and really hates hearing things like that (or, more to the point, having to come up with something to say to it). I’m 5’5, and have no advice for him.
His father wants him to swim on his own, and isn’t, in his words, “coddling” him through this. I think he needs a little coddling, and DH and I haven’t been actually fighting about this, but it’s an issue. I want his father to give him advice, and maybe commiserate a little, and he won’t.
Anyway, I’m his mom, and I’m worried. I can’t help it.
So tell me stories. How did you grow? Were you always tall, or did you shoot up in high school? Did you keep growing after your growth spurt, or was that it for you? How long did the puberty process last? (The boychick is smack in the middle of it-- below the waist, he’s through it, but above the waist not so much-- he has some serious gorilla legs, but no beard to speak of whatsoever, and not a single hair on his chest. And I haven’t seen him undressed in years, but according to DH “He won’t accidentally put his underwear on backwards anymore.”) How was it emotionally coping with growing to be taller than everyone else? Did you ever get teased; did it feel good-natured, or did it upset you? Overall, do you think being really tall is good? If you are 6’4+ would you choose the height you are over “normal tall,” like being 6’2? What are some good responses to remarks like “How’s the weather?” or even just “Wow, you’ve really grown, haven’t you?” Everyone who hasn’t seen him in more than a few months feels obligated to comment on his height, for some reason.
Thanks for indulging me. Again, I realize I could be having much worse problems, and I really should be thanking whatever gods there be, but as his mother, I’m worrying. If he were upset because his favorite show got cancelled, I’d worry. It’s what we do.