Asking for a friend.
I fortunately work from home, alone, and don’t have to deal with office bullshit.
A friend of mine got a new job a couple of months ago. She feels very unwelcome on the team she has been assigned to. Some of the stuff her teammates do seems a bit childish to me, it upsets her. For instance they will invite her to go to lunch with them then they will sneak out and leave her behind. Once a month or so they bring in breakfast. They asked her if she would like to participate and she suggested she bring in a fruit salad. The next day nobody ate her salad and one of the other women asked loudly who would be stupid enough to bring a fruit salad for breakfast?
One other person in the department told her she should do her best to get off that team because they have a bad reputation in the company, they goof off too much, joke too much, laugh too loud.
So here is what she is worried about now and I told her I’d not worry about it at all.
Several of them were assigned large projects that they can’t complete by themselves. Everybody pitched in and helped the first person get her part done. When my friend’s time came she asked another person on the team if he would help her and he told her no, he doesn’t like her and he doesn’t like her work ethic. She finished her part of the project and then sent out an email thanking everybody who helped her. She left his name off the email and now he is upset and having a fit over it.
She is all upset, worried that this will somehow come back on her. I said who cares if he has a fit, he refused to help and he doesn’t get a thank you. If he doesn’t like it then maybe he needs to grow up and do his job.
However, I always sucked at office politics.
How would you have handled it?