Question for those of you who have seen Stranger Things - sexual abuse?

The arguments in your OP are QAnon level interpretation of supposed clues. El’s behavior never points to sexual abuse and sometimes is inconsistent with it it obvious ways, as already described in this thread.

What was the most vagina like part of the gate?

It sounds like you’re not going to give up until you get somebody to agree with you. So far, no one does.