I’ve known plenty of HIV+ people, some do very well, others do not. Some pop a few pills have no side effects and live normally. Others have horrible side effects and can’t stand to be on the medications.
I’ve known of people who had it from the early 80s and are still around, others I’ve known of die rather quickly even with the meds.
It really is an individual thing.
Historically an antiretrovial was administered. This worked for awhile then then virus adapted an rendered it useless. This led to the development of cocktails drugs. These are a series of two or three antiretroviral drugs administered at the same time. This can be one combination pill or several pills, taken several times per day.
HIV so far seems to be unable to outwit antiretrovirals when multiple types are taken.
This is where it can become problematic. Some antiretrovirals are more toxic than others. Some strains of HIV are more agressive than others. So often for the first year the patient has to spend an good deal of time at the doctor’s office doing trial and error. You have to balance off the type of drug with the ability of the patient to deal with such things.
The antiretrovirals can produce things like the “AIDS hump” and other physical signs, though by no means does everyone get this.
So once you find the correct drugs to treat the HIV, you see your doctor at regularly scheduled visits and he checks to make sure things are going askew. If they do, they adjust the meds.
Fred will most likely be able to live a “normal lifespan” but he will undoubtedly have issues. He won’t be able to have sex without a condom ever. Even if his viral load goes to zero (indicating no HIV) this is a testing issue. The virus still exists in the body but it’s so low that it’s not measurable. He can still pass it on.
HIV is not spread causally, so there’s no worries about Fred playing with your kids or drinking from the same cups or sharing food with him. As long as you don’t have unprotected sex with Fred or do IV drugs with him, you will not get HIV.
The best thing for Fred is to find some support groups in his area. If he lives in a big city like Chicago there are plenty of groups.
Also note HIV is NOT a disablity so Fred is going to have to work. Even if he gets very sick as long as he is classed as HIV+ and not having AIDS, he cannot get medicaid or other disabilities. People diagnosed with AIDS can.
So Fred needs to prepare for periods in his life where he may not be able to work and needs to save some cash to carry him over those periods 'cause he’ll have down time in his life, which could be a long one.