Do you have friends who ARE smokers?
I know as a smoker, I am sometimes offended by the things said about smokers on the bored. I just wonder if you say these things to you friends who smoke?
I have a couple of friends who are smokers. I give them a hard time about it and they tell me to screw off. Just like good friends should. 
Yes. Some of my students smoke, too. :eek:
No one in our closest circle of friends smokes. I have one BIL who does, and he keeps it outside, even at his house, so it’s not an issue. Beyond asking a smoker not to smoke around me or in my house or car, I wouldn’t say anything one way or the other.
Yep, several. My wife even used to be a smoker (casually) when we were married. I don’t say much to them, but then again they all seem to be considerate smokers.
Yes, several of my friends are smokers.
And I constantly give them a hard time about it. By doing so, I’m actually doing them a big favor! How else are they going to find the motivation to abandon their filthy, disgusting, and costly habit?
None of my current circle are smokers but some of my friends in college were. I’d give them a hard time, but they’d give me a hard time about things too, so it was all okay.
I am a former 2 pack a day smoker and now consider myself a die hard non-smoker.
Inconsiderate smokers (Lets see, its non smoking inside the store/resturant so lets gather around the door and force everyone to walk through us!) are amongst my biggest pet peeves.
None of my friends smoke. However, my Stepfather and brother still do but they are very courteous. I just give my brother a hard time since he can’t afford it but still does.
I just quit smoking the first of November. Almost everyone I know still smokes, including my husband. I find it comforting.
Most of my family consists of non-smokers, including myself. My two brothers-in-law are smokers, however, and since they are respectful of the rest of us who don’t smoke it’s never an issue. They always go outside to smoke and they don’t smoke in their own homes. Each of them has tried to quit but has never been successful in doing so.
A friend of mine smokes but he, too, is trying to quit, but instead of cold turkey, he’s trying to gradually step down his tobacco intake. He knows the dangers of smoking and wants to rid himself of its presence in his life, so he doesn’t need me or anyone else to remind him of what he already knows.
So, what’s the difference between somebody who doesn’t smoke and a die-hard non-smoker?
I have a few friends who smoke, and I don’t give them any hassle about. They’re all mature, responsible adults, and I’m pretty certain they can all read.
Well, how about not friends but family? Both of my parents smoke and always have. I don’t like smoking, but I never say anything to them and it’s made me be a lot more considerate/tolerant about other people smoking. I am more protective, however, when it involves the air my son breathes. If someone were smoking in a non-smoking area, for example, and he was around, I’d probably ask them to put out the fag.
Sure. But not in my house. I even have an ashtray on my back deck for them to use. Heck, if they want to do something unhealthy, its their choice. That one habit doesn’t define their entirety. Don’t recall it being the subject of conversation much, tho if it came up, I’d probably question why they bother smoking something that doesn’t even get them high.
The only one that bothers me a bit is my MIL. She has pretty bad emphysema, and continues to smoke. And it really upsets my wife that her mom is killing herself. And THAT bothers me.
I am a die-hard non-smoker. I can’t think of anyone I know off the top of my head who smokes. Not one of my coworkers smokes, even. But when I am at a Dopefest, and people take smoke breaks, it’s no biggie. I used to take smoke breaks with a coworker (at a former employment) and we would bitch and chat. If she brought the topic up, I would encourage her to quit, but other than that, no, I try to avoid telling other people what to do.
I don’t have any friends who smoke, which is probably not a coincidence. People who smoke regularly stink–their breath, their clothes, everything. Sorry, guys, the breath mints don’t do the trick. Yesterday I was behind a woman in line who reeked. Phew.
On the other hand, I don’t say anything to anyone about smoking. It is their choice.
Someone who doesn’t smoke is a nonsmoker.
Someone who doesn’t smoke and considers it his or her life’s work to ban smoking in every conceivable place (restaurants, bars, workplaces, backyards) based on their scientific evidence is called an “anti” by smokers.
I visited several smoke-friendly websites as part of a political effort this summer. Although I don’t smoke, I was welcomed there because I did not condemn smokers as child abusers or drug addicts, or demand they should all be shipped off to some leper colony.
I am 35 and smoked a bit as a teen(like a phase) but grew out of it quickly.
My mother smokes 3+packs a day, and YES I make comments. Not heartless comments, but encouraging her to try the patch or inhaler.
She is 64 and her health is that of an 75 year old or older. I am an only child and have no other relatives (cept’ for my 16 y/o son) and I will be fully responsible for her when she is unable to care for herself. She had Pnemonia a few months back and thru it all hacked up her lungs, but still smoked.
At the same time my (now former) brother in law who is 40 dipped and smoked and had throat cancer. They did not think he would survive. The mass was 127cm and now (after MANY treatments) is totally gone.
My son has been caught with tobacco TWICE which he has had to pay a fine for and take a class… and I still caught him smoking.
Sounds selfish, but my mother is causing herself to be ill, and I will have to take care of her. I know this is normal process of life, and she could have any ailment due to ageing… but to see her get pnemonia and still smoke is sickning.It also worries me that if she were to have a stroke, the withdrawl symptoms that in itself would be hard to heal from.
Shehas had her Mobil home just three years and already everything is yellow.
I love her all the same of course, and we all do things harmful to our bodies… but she was even given patches from a doc (she has high b/p and other problems) and she will not try them. She jokes and says she would have to smoke them for them to work.
I would never say anything to a stranger but I do encourage those I do know and are close to look in to the inhaler.
BTW,
My mom has smoked since she was 18, and smoked all thru out her pregnancy with me. I was born with a hole in my heart and Transposition of the great vessels. I do not know if it is related or not, but I had to have two open heart surgeries all before the age of 3½.
I am not at all a basher, but I love my mom and hate to watch this over take her life. 
I have had many friends who smoke, it would not make me NOT be their friend or hang out with them… but they are always considerate and it does not bother me over all… but the smell eventually gives me a headache.
This is exactly the type of comment I was referring to. I just can’t imagine any of my non-smoker friends saying that to ANYONE. Not just to me, because I smoke, but to anyone.
I see that Brynda said that she didn’t have any friends who smoke, so she aparently doesn’t say this type of thing to anyone who smokes IRL. And I suppose that answers my questions.
On a side note, I can understand a person getting upset with a relative who smokes. That is very reasonable. I just don’t understand people who say smokers are dirty, and smelly and things.
I work with the public and although I smoke, there are some people who come in–and I know they smoke-- but I don’t smell it on them at all. There are also people who come in that reek of smoke.
I just don’t think that all smokers smell.
My fiance smokes. I act no different with her, than on the board…Okay you all can quit acting shocked now…