Questions & chat for parents of babies

Nope. There is no evidence that they help reduce SIDS deaths and are not recommended except in exceptional circumstances (perhaps with preemies as per your boss).

I suspect there’s not much that will help other than him making it past about 6 months of age intact. :frowning: I’m just hoping at that point some other twisted obsession doesn’t take over.

emmaliminial, I know, it’s a good problem to have! Though at the time I did NOT think it was fair, because the first month I had a lot of problems with supply, the Little One was unhappy because she was sooooo hungry, and I had to supplement with formula and pump constantly for a while to get my supply up. …Then, once I had enough, I had too much!

That being said, I think I swallowed way too much of the “must breastfeed or else!” kool-aid. I’m glad you’re being more relaxed about it – I think that’s more healthy. And hey, my sister and I were wholly formula babies and we turned out great, if I do say so myself :slight_smile:

alice, this is going to sound horrible, but one thing that helped me think about this was realizing that if something happened to the Little One it would really only take her a matter of minutes to suffocate. So unless I am willing to wake up every couple of minutes (which I don’t think is physically possible for me), chances are that waking up every hour or two isn’t actually going to help if SIDS is going to happen. After I realized that I slept a lot better because I no longer obsessed about waking up and checking on her – I don’t know if that will make you feel better or worse, though.

It also helped that the Little One had a pretty healthily vocal dislike of anything that even slightly threatened to cut off her air supply – while I was still worried about SIDS until she hit the magic 4 months, I was rationally pretty sure that she’d complain loudly if something were to be a problem.

Bean is 4 months this weekend. IIRC our kids are only a few days apart in age,** emma**. Just yesterday my day care provider was astonished at the number of bibs he went through. He’s such a spitter! And he’s learning how to move his tongue around so two days ago he surprised me by taking a mouthful of food and blowing a raspberry at me. I had to change my shirt and pants, and I was so shocked I just stared at him for a second astonished. My husband was laughing his ass off though.

When he was younger he snorted and grunted all through his sleep. I got used to it though and it got to be comforting–I knew he was still alive and it helped me keep sleeping while he did. Now he’s started babbling and never stops! He’s going to talk as soon as he figures out words, and you can see him trying to communicate, it’s so cute.
He also never stops kicking his feet and moving his legs and arms. He just stares at them sometimes and kicks at his blankets if I try to cover him. It’s annoying when it’s chilly and I actually want him to have some cover when we go out, but he loves to kick! SeeExhibit A in his baby gym kicking at the kick-mat.
He’s a smelly farter too. He stunk up the entire car the other day-Mr. Elysium was very impressed.

Our diaper bag generally contains:
-3 bibs (at least)
-extra burp cloth
-two extra onesies
-extra pants
-toy (a soft toy as well as one with many textures)
-diapers/wipes/butt cream
-gas meds
-extra pacifier
-small bottle of prune juice (for constipation)

Also, he’s just learned how to laugh and it’s probably my favorite thing EVER!

I understand alice’s paranoia about SIDS. I was the same way when my babies were tiny, especially with my first. I’m actually a SIDS survivor and was convinced that it had to be genetic. But after a while, I got so exhausted worrying about it, one day I stopped. It was weird - it had amost become a habit instead of a true fear. Still, just think: only a month or two before your baby can roll over. That’s really the landmark I looked for.

Actually he can already roll over on to his side - he’s just never bothered rolling over on to his tummy, as far as I can tell. He also will take his blanket when he’s in his car seat and move it up and down from his face with his hand depending on his temperature. It does seem like he’s quite a light sleeper (so am I) which makes me feel a bit better about things.

I’m also not pushing him sleeping through the night as that can apparently be a risk factor - i.e. babies not quite ready to be sleeping that long talked into sleeping longer than they’re physically ready for. I’ve always woken up multiple times in the night before I had him so I’m happy to keep doing it if it will help his lungs etc. develop a bit more.

So, do everything recommended and hope for the best. However, it’s an obsession I really wish would go away. Seriously, I read those earlier posts in this thread about babies sleeping in their own rooms blew my mind. Even during naps Jr. is right beside me, in the same room.