I used to think there were some people who really couldn’t quit.
I knew a guy who was a 4-pack a day smoker. He lit one off the end of the previous one. He’d walk away from one in the ashtray, and get a craving, and light another wherever he was, and couldn’t even wait until he got back to the ashtray.
He wanted to quit, and tried everything– nicotine gum, Smokenders (a 12-step group, IIRC), hypnotism, cold turkey, putting something on his cigarettes so they’d taste bad. Nothing worked.
Then, a few things happened. One was that the nicotine patch was invented. Another was that he hit the birthday his father was when he, also a heavy smoker, died of a massive heart attack. His mother, to whom he was devoted, was worried sick.
So, he did some reading on the psychology of quitting, and put together this plan:
He would use patches, and worry about getting over the nicotine addiction first. Anything he needed to do to deal with anxiety, or needing an oral fix he would do, up to and including candy cigarettes (he didn’t). He did go through huge packs of sugarless gum and Tic-Tacs, and he had a wad of Silly Putty he used to squeeze in order to have something to do with his hands. He literally had something in his mouth, and in his hands, all the time, for probably a year after quitting. He got over the nicotine addiction by stepping down the patches, and was off nicotine in 3 months, without any of the withdrawal he’d experienced before.
He also did this: he got a jar, and every day, he put the money he would have spent on cigarettes in the jar. For the first month, he took it out at the end of the week, and allowed himself to spend it on absolutely anything he wanted (except cigarettes). If he had smoked in the last week, he would have given the money to charity. After a month, he went to keeping the money in the jar for two weeks, then a month, and did that for a year.
He never smoked.
It was probably 3 years before he cut back on the gum and Tic-Tacs, but he said that one thing which helped was brushing his teeth after each meal.
I personally couldn’t believe it.
Now, I think anyone can quit with the right plan, and right motivation.
And just FTR, this was 25 years ago. He is now in his 70s, and says he feels great. He look good for someone in his mid-70s, and he walks everywhere. He’s survived his father by 25 years. His mother passed away about 10 years after he quit smoking. He was in deep mourning for her, but did say he was very glad she did not outlive him.
I’ve never smoked, so that’s the nest I have to offer.