I’m curious about this - I have boy/girl twins who’ll turn 5 in February, and it’s so interesting to see how different their needs are. But I never know if what I’m witnessing is differences between individuals or something gender-linked.
It seems to me that my son needs more strength from me than my daughter requires. He wants firm rules, he needs to know for sure that I AM in charge.
Litioris’s thread about training dogs brought this to mind - it feels like my son is more of a puppy who needs to be taught his place in the “pack”. Whereas my daughter is more of a cat, determined to find her own way through devious means if necessary. She tells lies. My son doesn’t.
I hope those descriptions don’t sound uncharitable - they’re wonderful children and I enjoy them mightily; I think they’re the smartest, cutest, sweetest kids on the planet.
I’m just always searching for ways of understanding them, and myself as “mom”. It’s endlessly fascinating.