I’ve got this pending notification sitting here for months now that I haven’t responded to yet.
It’s a friend request, that I’m not actually interested in accepting. Going to the “Manage friends requests” page, I see that my choices are: (1) Accept; (2) Reject.
If I reject, is the rejectee notified in any way? I don’t want to do that, any more than I’d want to tell someone who I’m ignoring. I want to be discreet.
So if I reject, does it happen silently?
ETA: Okay, so I might actually enjoy telling all my ignorees who they are, just to be mean. But I won’t. Actually, I’m not ignoring anyone (yet), but I’m starting to think about it.
No, it wasn’t you. You never asked to be my friend
And anyway, I started an ATMB thread several months ago, in which I asked what is the effect of being someone’s friend in vBulletin anyway, and never got much of an answer.
A lot of the friend functionality is either not enabled or not a part of this version of vBulletin. Mostly, if they’re your friend (which necessarily means they’re in your contacts) they can PM you if you have it set to only accept PMs from Mods and Contacts.
I think that if I sent someone a friend request and they didn’t respond for nine months, I’d get the picture that it was a “no.” A rejection notification doesn’t strike me as any less humane.
But, what does it mean to be ‘friends’. The only thing I can see that it does is make me feel awkward when I have to stridently disagree with someone on my friend list.
