Wow. My grandmother is here with us this week and we were talking last night - when her husband was alive (he died this January) they were never really much for all that planned community activities stuff (they thought everybody else was very nosy), so now we’re trying to convince her to go and participate more now that she’s alone. She seems to be a little afraid of the clique factor, and she can’t hear worth a damn. Also, they mostly play bridge and she doesn’t like bridge. Perhaps we should mention the swinger’s club as an alternative.