I’m not sure how “As a moderator I stick purely to enforcing board rules and offer no opinions on any subject at all” can be that badly misunderstood. You need to read more carefully, but to spell it out, there is no opportunity to do what you call “misgendering,” if you’re just being a moderator, nor would I ever refer to a poster on the SDMB by a pronoun they didn’t want to be referred to with.