Right now I SHOULD be at the LOTR Movie Marathon

The BBQ Pit
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But I’m not because my parents who were supposed to baby sit couldn’t do it.

I am so fucking pissed off!

At least Leechboy got to go and enjoy the movies so the night wasn’t ruined for both of us.

I let mum and dad look after Annie for a couple of hours this afternoon whilst I got some sleep in before staying up all night watching the LOTR movies. They couldn’t even manage for an hour on their own - with me in the next room! These are the same people who have been asking me to leave the baby with them for an extra week after Leechboy and I return home.

Mum is in a wheelchair now because her MS has deteriorated so badly, I really wasn’t comfortable leaving Annie with her but Dad said he would be there to help. I trusted Dad, he is good with Annie and he is a doctor so should something go wrong he would know what to do. But when I went for my nap, Dad fell asleep also, leaving Mum on her own.

I woke up to the sound of a screaming baby and came out of the room to see mum trying to pick Annie up off the floor by grabbing one of her arms and dragging her up into the wheelchair. My mother who can’t even hold a full cup of coffee without spilling it. She hadn’t even tried to ask for help because she wanted to look after Annie herself and didn’t realise that what she was doing was hurting the baby (ummm Mum the screaming is a BIG clue).

So now I’m upset that I have to miss the movie marathon I had been looking forward to so much.

But even more I am upset that my mum’s disease has progressed so far that she misses out on being a full grandma to her only grandchild. All the medications she takes to help kill the pain seem to also have changed who she is, sometimes she doesn’t understand that what she is doing just isn’t appropriate.

I am upset at myself for putting my baby in a situation that could have ended very badly. There are endless ‘what ifs’ crossing my mind and I am very lucky that I just have a tired and grumpy baby with teething pains. It took me 4 hours to get Annie to sleep and she starts whimpering at the sound of my mums voice and crying when she see’s mum.

  • After preview -

Well it seems that by putting my thoughts in writing I have clarified and changed them somewhat.

In summary:

I want something to be angry at, something tangible to point at and go ‘this is the thing that is at fault’. It is just never that easy and really what is the worth of seeing some movies when compared to the health and well being of my child.

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Ach. I missed a similar marathon with my friends because I had to return home from college. Take comfort in the possibility of a similar, even more marathonic marathon when RotK:EE comes out.

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Oooh thank-you robertliguori you give me great hope :slight_smile:

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Seems to me you could pit MS and the effects of aging - both are worthy Pit subjects!

I’m sorry you had to miss your movie marathon. :frowning: Here’s hoping robertliguori’s prediction turns out to be true, and you get another chance next year!

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You’re not alone. I not only didn’t get to see the marathon, I haven’t even been able to see the ROTK. Mr. Congo is recovering from back surgery (he had it the day before Christmas Eve) and I can’t bring myself to go without him. He’d be so heartbroken.

I’m so sorry about your mother. Don’t feel guilty about your daughter. There’s no way you could have known it would turn out like that. Now you know and you can avoid the same situation in the future. Your mother is probably beating herself up mentally about it.
I hope everything works out for you guys.

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Leechy, I am so sorry about your mum. I imagine you have grieving to do for the mother you knew and the grandma you wanted for your child who seems currently lost to you now in some ways.

It is not fair and you all deserve better.

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I had to walk a little over 10 kilometers to see LOTR The Return of the King; that´s just 1/4 of a marathon though… :wink: