Bolding mine
What exactly did you mean by this? Please, clarify. :dubious:
Oh, you know. 3cc of this, 10mg of that, who the fuck can remember?
Obviously he means that these “damn women” have been ruining the nursing profession for us men for hundreds of years. They should be in the home, not having sex with their husbands, but staying with people they hate for “the sake of the kids.”
I haven’t put anyone on my Ignore List in many years. I don’t suppose that if I add ole Rolly, it’ll block his threads, will it?
As much as I’d like to make this next comment in ATMB, I’ll put it here for fear of reprisal:
“A proposal for a new Forum”
I propose we add a new forum for all questions from Roland Deschain. We can call it MPHOGQ, where mundane, pointless, humble opinions of general questions can be asked. It not be held to the same standards as the rest of the SDMB, but will be based on the traditions and style of www.allnurses.com. Editing will be allowed, months after the fact, so that if Roland has something to add to a thread that is long since dead, but makes him look like less of a pompous ass, he can do so. All threads must include half of a question in the title bar, and as much sesquepedalian words as possible (thank you Says You on NPR).
I would say something in your defense, Roland, but I wouldn’t feel safe. Just lay low and interject only when necessary, try to color within the lines.
Dopellycoccus (innovation resistant strain)
Now he’s even been formally warned.
Dude, these petty issues will never become water under the bridge untill you let people forget about them/you for a bit. It’s like a wound that keeps opening back up. Try waiting until all of your posts have fallen off the main board before you post again. If you feel an urgent need to ask something, write it down. Then, ask yourself “Is this a question that has a factual answer?” “Is it worth asking, and can it wait untill tomorrow?”
When the Mods get pissed, you’re one step closer to banning. This should be a clear signal that you need to evaluate your methods, unless you don’t give a fuck. In which case, I’m sure there’s some nursing board that would love to have you.
Careful about discussing your IGNORE list. It’s against the rules to say who’s on yours.
Where is the “formal” warning? Are they posted in some sort of special folder (at Allnurses you had a private mailbox where warnings could be collected). Also, in the event that I am banned can’t I just pay another fee, adopt another screen name and keep posting?
I’m also taking pains not to break policy guidelines. My thread titles are seldom using the … thing. I’m not using “subtitles” within threads. Also, I’m asking myself “is there a question here” each time I post. In addition, I’m doing a search each time I post to make sure the question at least hasn’t been asked recently. Popularity shouldn’t be an issue (one time staff at Allnurses told me that I was warned simply because so many people were offended at my ideas even though he admitted that he could find no instance where I had violated site guidelines. He said that one particularly valued CRNA member had said that unless I was warned he would no longer participate).
Personally, in my professional life (as a student nurse and substitute teacher part time) I practice what I call the “Hitler doctrine”. That means that even if perhaps the most evil, person in the world was one of my students or patients I would strive to treat them absolutely no different than I would say Mother Theresa were she in the same position.
Okay, I found the warning.
I honestly am really surprised that the genetics class question caused me to get a warning! That question reflects an actual conversation that I had with my chemistry professor in class after he brought the subject up (he said that he had often thought of writing a murder mystery that involved so called heavy water and I then volunteered the story about the “mutagen”). I really am curious what the stuff was since I’ve done MMG, and NNG searches on Google and haven’t found anything. I know that I’ve seen many other posts that involved illegal activity, and is this one any different? As to thread frequency I am limiting new threads to no more than about three or four per day. What is the actual guideline? I see people with many thousands of threads here, surely their “thread pace” has been much higher than mine during various periods.
In this thread you will find what you may or may not consider to be an interesting comment from Lynn Bodoni.
Roland I hate to trot out the old “that’s the way it’s done around here” line, but it’s true.
The one overarching rule of the SDMB is “Don’t be a jerk”. The definition is left vague for a reason. The mods here, unlike most of the boards in the world, actually moderate this place. Threads are moved or closed with amazing alacrity, and people are warned if they start pushing the boundaries. But everything is done for a reason - no pet peeves, no spiteful action by the mods. Heck, someone else even started a Pit thread about your closed GQ thread!
That being said…
Right now you have 7 threads on the first two pages of GQ (including the locked one which is falling rapidly). Now, that in itself is not necessarily a bad thing. But you have maintained that level of “presence” since you joined. You also have a habit of mentioning how things work at another message board in every other post you make (or so it seems). I would recommend dropping this habit. If you have a complaint about the board, there is a forum for it (ATMB) - putting in every other post just annoys people who read your posts.
As I said before, the SDMB is not “just another” message board. It has a level of discourse and integrity rarely found on the internet. No editing, no avatars, and no sock puppets. Trust me, drop the idea of registering under a new name right now. That is not allowed under the user agreement, not to mention frowned upon.
Also, the “post count” you see next to people is NOT the amount of threads they have started - it’s the amount of posts they have. I’m just short of 800 posts, and I think I’ve started maybe 30 threads total. Someone around here even has a signature about posts in a single thread - 400 something in the “a” thread. You think Q.E.D. would still be around if he had started over 8,000 threads in just over a year? :dubious:
Just relax, ignore this Pit thread from now on, and post a GQ only when you really, really can’t find the answer to something. Lurk for a while and you will find out about MPSIMS, IMHO, Cafe Society, Great Debates, and the other forums that make up the SDMB.
Some of your points are well taken. I didn’t think that I started more than about four posts last night so perhaps some of the seven which you reference have been “moved up” due to replies. Also, I would contrast the criticism that you and some others offer with the insult laden rants that others advance (especially those which make references about my personal character and my fitness to be a nurse). I hate bullies, whether intellectual or otherwise and nothing burns me more than letting them “have the day” even if it’s only rhetoric. Having said that you are correct. Look, I am sincerely sorry for offending anyone. Please, can I just have a truce on this issue? I promise to further curtail the number of threads that I start. Here’s the bottom line there is not a person who has posted about me at this forum that I wouldn’t welcome into my home for dinner and rational conversation. For me this is intellectual discussion about ideas, and arguments. However, I get the feeling from many of my critics that they personally dislike me, and frankly this really bothers me.
Well, good on you Roland. Hopefully the often mentioned, rarely witnessed flameout can be avoided.
And I also hope that in 6 months you find the SDMB as good a community as I do.
I don’t think you really offended anyone, just annoyed them.
Certainly, I think we’d all like this to be a non-issue.
That should suffice to make everyone happy.
If that’s true, you have much more tolerance than anyone I know. Even if it’s only partially true, it shows that you don’t hold grudges. They’re useless and prevent open conversation from happening.
I can’t speak for everyone here obviously, but I don’t think that anyone got much more than peeved or annoyed by your posts. A clear plan of action has been layed out in this thread, and you seem to be willing to abide by it. As long as that happens, all of this silly crap will just fade away.
Roland, in my opinion (and I am not a moderator or otherwise any sort of an authority), starting four new GQ threads in a night is too many, particularly when you’ve been starting new threads every day. That is not to say that a poster should never start four threads in a forum in a day, but to start threads at anything near that rate is just too much. You’ve been warned to reduce your thread starting output, and I fear that if you keep the current rate up, you’ll have an unhappy result.
Most of the GQ posts I see are from people who have a real current issue that they want information on: I have this problem with my car, I saw this item in the news, somebody told me this thing I think may be incorrect, or whatever. If you run into several of those issues in one day, it’s usually no problem to post a thread on each of them. But coming up with a new batch of questions each day is tiresome for those of us who like to help people with their actual current issues, and may be inconsiderate to those who need their current questions issues answered but may be displaced by your constant questioning.
My (totally unofficial) recommendation would be for you to start no more than one GQ thread in a day. Right now, people are highly aware of and somewhat annoyed with the rate at which you’re starting GQ threads, so I’d be sure to keep it on a very low level from here on out.
I’d also ask yourself whether questions you have might fit in other forums. For example, Cafe Society would probably have been a better place for your (otherwise problematical) question of whether anyone had used the idea of killing someone with a mutagen in a book or television program. Vague questions about the taste of particular brands of potato chips could probably fit into IMHO. With a little creativity, you may get better responses by branching your threads out. Still, at this point, I’d be really wary of starting more than one new thread in a forum each day.
Fortunately or unfortunately, the membership of this board has some strong social expectations of individual members. These are entirely apart from the official rules enforced by the moderators. Still, if an individual repeatedly violates the social expectations of the membership, it may in time turn into a violation of the “don’t be a jerk” prime directive.
Asking too many questions has been a long term issue for me. I was just told by a guy who I went who I have know since youth football at age six and went to highschool with (and who is the local volunteer fire chief/ and deputy prosecutor) that I might not be accepted into the local fire dept. as a volunteer because people remember me as someone who was always asking too many questions back in school (and it’s been a long time)! It’s almost ironic on one hand I’m almost anti-social in informal situations because I so fear rejection and have trouble making “small talk”. However, in class and in message boards I tend to go overboard with my questions and opinions. My wife thinks I have either Aspergers or Anti Social Personality Disorder (she actually leans towards me being a sociopath of late). In some ways she may be correct as I was taken with the view points of Ayn Rand a few years ago (minus the atheism, plus I’m anti-abortion).
In any case I will curtail the new threads.
Roland, if you are concerned about your social skills, you might find this book interesting. It’s geared toward folks with ADHD, but may be more generally applicable.
Thanks, I’ll check that out.
I’m sure no one cares by this point, but I was going to start a thread of my own similar to this. And seeing as how I’d probably be flamed for starting a similar thread, here I am.
The star of this thread said this earlier today here
I think this is a total BS statement, and I’m calling it out. (ooooh, I know.)
But while looking over this thread I noticed some other “I’m such an expert when you’re not looking” type claims (referred to by others) and that kind of thing really irks me.
This has to be the wussiest flame, ever.
What do you think is BS about the statement? It is my opinion that I fit the “choke” classification. My cross country experience is probably the best example, but there are others I can think of:
a. Bowling alone, I have scored as high as about 210. However, against other people I’m lucky to do better than about 150, and usually less (granted, I don’t bowel much).
b. Playing billiards casually I’m fairly decent. However in competition I haven’t done so well (again I’ve only played in competition of a few occasions).
c. Playing “casual” chess I’ve often beaten opponents (one in particular on multiple occassions) who had ratings in excess of around 1900. However, in tournaments I’m lucky to beat someone with a 1500 rating.
It is my opinion that I illustrate the “choke” profile. How can an opinion about yourself be BS?
The BS is that you ran 15:45 in practice, and 17+ in races… I can’t buy it.