Roomie Blues

Ok, here’s the situation. My girlfriend was roommates with this other girl last year in the dorms at college. They decided to get an apt. this year to help save on costs.

They moved into the apt at the beginning of June, with the other girl moving in the last part of may. Ok, so she got there first, and pretty much took control of the apt. She moved in her current boyfriend without consulting my girlfriend. “Chris is moving in with us, is that ok?” This really cheesed my g/f because her and I had talked about sharing an apt, but the other girl said no, because she didn’t like me, and would feel awkward. No biggie, we consulted and came to a decision.

I didn’t think of it at the time, but the boyfriend was a violation of the lease. Also, boyfriend has an iguana. Another violation of the lease “No Reptiles.” She had moved the boyfriend in under the guise that her ‘friend’ just moved into town and is looking for an apt. No biggie to the landlord, he can stay for a couple weeks until my g/f moved in at the beginning of June.

My girlfriend had to get the power and the phone turned on, because the other girl was lazy and broke. So the electricity and phone are in her name, if they don’t get paid, that’s a strike against her. Not the other girl. For the month of June, everything was ok, except everytime I went over, it seemed like it was winter in there, because the A/C was on about 65 or so ALL THE TIME. We’d get bitched at if we moved the temp up to a comfortable level, say 74. “If you keep it at one setting, it’s more efficient” was the comment made.

Other girl made statements about not wanting the full phone package like she earlier had, so my g/f had them removed, no biggie, she didn’t need all that crap anyway. Then the wrath comes, ‘why did you do that without consulting me?’ She had, and it was pretty much a done deal.

Oh, and then comes the day when the boyfriend and iguana have to go. My girlfriend, who had been told that it was quite alright for ‘Chris’ to live there, mentioned something to the property manager about him and the iguana. OOPS. Prop. Mgr. calls roommate - “Boyfriend and iguana are to be gone by the end of the day!” So who catches hell for that? My g/f, because she ratted them out. Not true, all she did was say something about something that she was under the impression was ok to begin with. So what does the other girl do? Take the mattress she was letting my g/f use until we could get one moved into the apt. Nice, thanks, nothing like a nice hard floor to sleep on. “Chris needed a bed!”

And it doesn’t stop! Electric bill comes in. BOOOM! That’ll be $190+ dollars, thank you for shopping. Who gets to pay it? Yep, you got it, the person’s whose name it’s under. It’s due, and where’s roomie’s money? Dunno. It gets paid and now roomie owes my g/f $130 for elec. and phone. I say, just give her the money for rent, which is 230 - the 130 for bills = 100. Easy right? Not for her roomie, the math major.

Roomie is mad because no ‘consulting’ was done on this ‘financial’ issue. I figure it’s easy, pay your bills when they are due, and that’s it. Live by the rules and you’ll be happy. Unless you’re looking for a free ride.

So roomie goes to Prop. Mgr. and gives the rent money, less $130. Telling the ast. Mgr. (prop.mgr. not there) that my g/f isn’t paying the rent. So roomie gives mgr my number to talk to my g/f here. Oh, someone didn’t mention anything about the OUTFUCKINGRAGEOUS power bill that was due. The asst mgr just left it as, “I don’t want in the middle of this, talk to prop. mgr. tomorrow.” I don’t blame her.

Now, I have wanted to talk to the roomie and point out that if you break rules you have to pay. But, because of my g/f, I’m ‘biased’ and whatever I say isn’t correct. Yes, I am going to side with my g/f, naturally, but if she does something wrong, I would let her know, and have in the past. Wrong is wrong, no matter who does it. Hell, my mother never took up for me if I did something wrong.

Any Ideas? I looked for the revenge thread that was here a while back about putting toothpicks in car doors and stuff. My g/f suggested that they get a mediator to talk to, but I have no idea on how to get that done. Personally I think the bitch should die a slow rotting death, but I’m told that won’t solve anything.

Thanks for listening, and I know that plenty of you will have good ideas. And if perchance you want to do something bad to the roomie, I’ll buy you beer after it’s done :wink: hehheh IT’S A JOKE, OK?

-great, now she’ll die and it’ll be my fault.

Oh, a couple more things - roomie is charged a $300 pet violation fee and is going to be evicted as soon as my g/f can find a replacement… that is tough to do.

Whew, quite the problem there.
OK, as I just went through all this before the house burned down.

Your GF has to go tothe property manager, and sit him/her down. She has to tell him the whole story, from begining to end and make sure he/she understands that she is trying her best to find a replacement.

Do you think it’s possible for you two to live together? Or did you already get a place?

Is the lease for the apt only in your GF’s name? make sure there is no damage to the apt itself, otherwise your GF will be help responsible.

wacky

You’re in college, right? Colleges tend to have a lot of free or cheap services. Start with the housing people - don’t talk to clerks (they don’t care) but try to get one of the management types. Explain your g/f’s problem and ask what resources are available to help with your problem. They will also probably have a list of people looking for housing.

G/F has learned one of the things I learned in college. Never room with a good friend - your unwillingness to jeopardize the friendship inevitably allows the other person to take advantage of you.

P.S. If it were more efficient to leave the ac at one temperature, programmable thermostats would be worthless.

Ask the property manager to come inspect the apartment now, before the roomie is evicted and on the day that the roomie leaves as well. That may prevent any retaliatory vandalism on the part of the hellish roomie.

Make note of any and all defects, regardless of how small they seem. Take photos of each room.

Have all parties involved be at the inspection, if possible.

Shoot her. Sell her junk to recoup the costs. :slight_smile:

Perhaps small claims court can help her recoup some of the financial losses?

Other than that, get her th f*** out ASAP and chalk it up as a learning experience.

wacky ninja- Prop Mgr. knows all about what is going on. Prop Mgr hates roomie, because roomie has lied several times to her before. Prop Mgr sides with g/f, but if rent isn’t paid, then both are responsible, both are on the lease and both can be evicted. Prop Mgr said late charges begin the fourth, and after a certain time, eviction happens. She might could move in with me, but it’s a little crowded right now as it is, but I don’t think that’s a big problem, other than Baylor’s ‘no cohabitation’ policy.

Not to worry about the rent, as I heard today, some money will be there for the rent. Late charges will apply. I’m hoping that we can catch her taking mail. I think federal mail fraud charges would be nice. Any help on this? Roomie can check mail, and get mail, but can only open roomie’s mail, correct. If say, a money order was in an envelope addressed to me, and my roomie takes it and cashes it, then that’s mail fraud, correct?

zyada - she’s in college, but not me. Oh, and leaving the thermostat at one temp is more efficient, but only if you put it between 75 - 80. Not 60 -65 like she did… sheesh. Morons.

Motorgirl, thanks for the advice, and i will advise her of it in the morning.

Vestal Blue. I hadn’t thought of the selling her junk part. I didn’t think of shooting her, but I had thought of other, quieter methods of disposal. <EFG>

Sue Duhnym - I suggested that to g/f, but it won’t get the money in by the 4th. plus that takes money, and even if she won, which she should, there is no guarantee that she would ever see the money. roomie was bragging about making $200 last weekend, but can’t seem to come up with the $130. Interesting.

What makes me so mad is that roomie isn’t taking responsibility for her actions. If I or my G/F did something to jeopardize her lease, were warned, and did it again, then I’d say, yep, we messed up, time to pay. BUT NOOOO! Roomie thinks it’s my g/f sabotaging the whole thing. IT’S YOUR FAULT THAT WE GOT CAUGHT BREAKING THE LEASE, NOT OURS FOR DOING IT! I hate that girl, and that means a lot, because most people don’t mean enough to me to make me hate them.

Zyada makes a good suggestion. Many colleges have “off-campus housing” offices, and they often have lawyers on call who will do pro-bono work for students in these situations.

I was in a similar situation when I was in college (only there were 5 of us sharing a house and one wanted to murder me–literally! :eek: ) Fortunately, the rent was usually paid on time. I took a beating, though, because it was my name on the electric and phone bill.

thanks for your (plural) help. I got a call this morning and it looks like it’s all gonna be just fine. My g/f is going to be signed off the lease and move into a condo closer to school. Her rent is going to be more, but it is a much nice place.

Thanks.

Not that i would ever watch a show like that! :wink:

Just outta curiousity… how could these 2 girls ever get the idea that they could actually LIVE together? they dormed together in college and that all went smooth? Howcome it all just changed out of the blue?

Oh and ofcourse i hope it all works out for you… sorry i cant really add to the advice given here already…but i hope the best for you… and that the roomie burn in hell :slight_smile:

The lived together in the dorms, but that’s a limited responsibility area. You have a room just a little bigger than most peoples bedrooms, a lot of stuff, and two people. No squabbles over rent, electricity, boyfriends moving in… nothing like that.

This roomie lacks a lot of things, common sense, decency, discipline and boobs, to name a few.

Outcome? Maybe I’ll get to see roomie fall flat on her ass, and not make it thru life. G/F gets a better place, closer to school, and not too far from my apt.

I guess growing up w/o your parents will make you a bit more mature.