Late to the parade as usual…but here’s my feelings on it. I rarely eat all the food on my plate when eating out. The servings are way too big for me. If there is something that I know that my dining companion enjoys (looks at husband and thinks about bacon), I will eat around it and then offer it to him/her. I’d think it was unspeakably rude for him/her to just reach over and grab it. What if I wanted to box it up and have it later?
The kid gets a pass…because kids that young are just learning. The OP could have been more polite in his wording…the sister was totally rude by demanding that he give up his food for anyone.
(Yeah, maybe it’s fake, maybe it’s not, but meh, who cares – at this point it’s funny)
After a double portion of fettucini with pink sauce, you shouldn’t have been that hungry and cranky. And it still doesn’t excuse being rude. Madison is three, so she has an excuse. You’re an adult, and thus you do not.
And I don’t care if you consider it fat-shaming, don’t post something and then whine when people comment on it.
My post was kind of in jest, but also tried to make the point that there could be other reasons why someone is intent on eating and doesn’t appreciate his food being grabbed. My father after a colonoscopy, for example. So it may or may not be relevant, but it’s easier to pick on someone fat.
Of course, and that would be just as rude. However, that wasn’t the case in the OP, and he was the one accusing people of “fat shaming”. (I don’t care if you’re a 90lb weakling, after eating two and a half portions of pasta with rose sauce, you shouldn’t still be so hungry that you’re cranky and snapping at people.)
Great, now I have had a dream about this thread! I’m sitting on a brown couch and there is a bowl of succotash on the end table. A kid comes along and is about to take a handful when I gently say, May I get you a bowl of succotash? I do so and bring to into the room where he is with his family…and that’s when things got weird.
Aside from the issue at hand, this is alarming. I am overweight, but I wouldn’t even notice a walk of three blocks. I had a cousin who died from morbid obesity, and I’m imagining someone her size, out of breath after walking 3 blocks . . . and stabbing a 3-year-old’s hand with her fork, to protect her broccoli.
Oh, and the kid’s mother was the rude one.
Sufferin’ succotash!
Come on, you’ve been here long enough to know you don’t get to leave us hanging like that!
Are you sure you don’t have “social issues?” 
I totally do. I get around it by not leaving my subterranean lair.
Hee. Well, not that weird, but it was this crowd milling about dressed in various costumes - “goth”, zombie and the like (probably because I fell asleep after seeing coverage of a comic con). I think I identified a blonde in a bondagy warriory type outfit as the OP’s sister. I did not spot any goats or squid.
gigi, what did you have to eat before you went to bed? (No, not “fat-shaming”, I’ve just heard that if you have a big meal or eat right before you go to bed, you have strange dreams)
Not really related, but this reminds me of the time my grandmother decided to walk to the end of the street (four blocks) to buy lottery tickets. Now, my grandmother your typical “little old lady”, maybe about 100lbs soaking wet, but she was also 92, with a bad heart, diabetes and on oxygen. It was also in the middle of a heat wave. The owner of the store had to drive her back to her house. When he told my mother and I about this, my mother about hit the roof.
Okay, that’s worse than the OP, but dude, do you want to end up like that?
Large pizza and a pint of B&J’s, why? 
Just kidding – this was after falling back to sleep in the morning; that’s when my dreams are closest to the surface.
You’re a grownup. This is not acceptable social behavior. Even if you’re hungry and in a bad mood you are obliged to behave in a polite manner. And one of the rules about sharing a meal with other people is that you share when you know that someone in your group wants some of your food.
And as an adult interacting with a child, it’s your obligation to behave as a role model. That means you don’t allow your old and your hunger to overpower your manners.
It seems like you could use some brushing up on social interaction, since you say this in another thread:
No. Absolutely not. If someone offers to share, that’s fine, but you do not ask. You do not look longingly. You certainly don’t grab. And if people do not wish to share food from their plates, you DO NOT even think of them as selfish or rude, let alone say it out loud.
I flat disagree. Eating with people means you eat with people. As soon as you notice someone looking at your food, you offer to share some, and you do it gladly, because that’s what it means to be part of a human social group. You certainly never refuse when someone actually asks—which they shouldn’t have to anyway, because you should have already offered. Someone who can’t stand the thought of sharing from his or her plate should go eat in a room alone. That person isn’t fit for human company.
Eh, that’s taking it a step too far IMHO. Certainly, most of the time a certain level of sharing is expected and it works out smoothly and without anyone being annoyed. But when there is a refusal, my experience is that most of the time it is actually rudeness and poor empathy on the part of the person asking. In particular, if someone has a special dietary restriction (vegan, etc.) then it is rude to ask that person for a bite, and entirely appropriate for them to (politely) refuse a request. The reason of course is that the person can’t have a bite from the others in return. So it’s not so much a shared meal as it is just losing part of your meal.
I hope it goes without saying that since dietary restrictions tend to be long-term, people under them have to deal with the same crap every single time they eat with others, and so it is only good manners to be extra polite to them.
Asking for food from someone’s plate or even offering from your own is a breach of etiquette.
It’s also basic first grade hygiene that you don’t eat food from someone else’s plate.
Oh good lord. A three year old did not display proper manners. Three years old.
The adult did not deal with it properly. The ‘adult’ couldn’t handle it.
That’s pretty much it
No way. We each ordered what we wanted so I don’t need to offer food because someone looks at it. Maybe in the case where someone really couldn’t decide and wants to taste the one they didn’t get, OK. Or if someone is done and offers the remainder as up for grabs.