This, like buying FrostyPaws (ice cream for dogs) sounds like a classic case of projection: “Hey, I think my dog wants some beer!” No, dummy, YOU want some beer. Your dog wants water, meat, and maybe some corn chips.
Based on what you have written here, I would not date him. And yes, I believe giving alcohol to an animal on a regular basis is wrong.
Don’t know if beer is bad for dogs or not.
I’d be more apt to not date him becasue giving beer to a dog on a regular basis is weird/odd.
I choose not to date weird/odd people.
Actually, my dog *will *snatch your beer right outta your hand. She clearly likes beer. She also enjoys coffee, especially if there’s Bailey’s in it. :smack: Okay, so maybe there’s a canine AA meeting I can get her into.
That said, I don’t go out and buy an extra case for the dog, nor do I load her up with Espresso + Bailey’s shooters each morning. Once in a while, I’ll let her steal a mostly-empty bottle so she can lick the backwash out of it – she maybe gets an ounce of beer at a time, if that. She’s a 75-pound dog. I never waste my good coffee on the dog, but she’ll counter surf, steal my French press, or poke her enormous tongue right into my coffee cup if I’m not paying attention. I’m talking about letting her steal a lick or two here and there, maybe once a month, maybe.
I would consider it abusive to feed the dog many beers every day. To me, that would be tantamount to poisoning your dog to death slowly. But a lick of backwash from the bottle I just finished? Meh… However, in the OP’s situation, it sounds like there’s more than just the one red flag there, so yeah, DTMFA.
Thank you so much for all of your feedback, everyone. I withdrew from him and felt bad for probably hurting his feelings, but I’ve been feeling bad and second-guessing myself lately, hence this thread.
Every person that I’ve ever known to give beer to their pets have been raging alcoholics. So, I’d dump his butt and not even think twice about it. (Although, I’d ask for the dog, hoping to find it a new home)
There are some very limited circumstances where beer can be helpful to horses who have a condition that interferes with their ability to regulate their body heat. So, beer for horses can be a sane action to take for a horse that overheated but not sweating ( http://www.thoroughbredtimes.com/horse-health/2004/may/08/veterinary-topics-help-for-horses-that-do-not-sweat.aspx )
Welcome to the Dope, Poster.
There’s no reason to continue dating someone once you realize you’re incompatible for whatever reason. Feelings get hurt, but as long as you’re honest, kind, and polite, you have nothing to feel bad about.
I’ve come across dogs that were fond of beer, and friends who gave their dog a sip or two occasionally. It didn’t bother me, but it would’ve bothered me a lot if it were done in quantity on a regular basis.
I find it interesting that more than one person pointed this connection out without me explicitly mentioning he was a heavy drinker. (He has since quit drinking.) I don’t know if it’s fair to hold a former drinking problem against him, although it’s also a concern, but since he did quit I didn’t mention it as another potential issue.
Alcohol can cause a whole lot of other problems when consumed chronically.
Wait now, the dude quit drinking but the dog still gets beer every day? I think it’s ok to back away from this one, sounds like one of those paths that ends with a big pile of rubble.
It is quite fair to make assumptions about someone’s character based on their actions.
Especially when they’re doing something really stupid like buying a case of beer for their dog every week. The guy’s a fucking idiot.
It is also reasonable to judge people based on their friends. “A man is known by the company he keeps.”
If the company this guy keeps includes a friend who likes to troll the internet for underage girls with psychological problems, then Poster should definitely hold that against him. I’d be wary of anyone who doesn’t find that creepy and disgusting.
While watching football I offered my dog my mug of beer and quite surprised when she thought she’d have some! I thought she’d turn up her nose. I did not repeat that mistake (and did not allow her any. I did get her a bone since I figured she should get something)
I’ve known several alcoholics that no longer drink. Look up the term “dry drunk.” There is more than drinking to alcoholism. The absolute deal breaker for me is that they lie as well as a psychopath. And, honestly, I would never believe that an alcoholic who buys a CASE of beer a week isn’t drinking at least part of it himself. I think a case is 24 beers. Are you willing to believe that a dog can consume an average of 3 beers a day for an extended period of time and not be visibly unhealthy? I wouldn’t touch the idiot with a 10 foot pole and I’d call the local animal cruelty investigator and make a complaint just be be a jerk.
If you are asking the question, you have some doubt. If you have some doubt, don’t go out. It’s not compulsory that you date this man.
His quitting drinking is very recent and I don’t know if he still bothers with the dog’s SMALL cans of beer anymore, to be honest. My guess is he’s not bothering now that he’s quit (again, he quit VERY recently) because he wanted the dog to drink WITH him at home alone.
Too late to edit: I’m sorry, I posted without refreshing. The guy has quit drinking, but buys his dog a case of beer a week? More like the guy has “quit drinking” and buys his “dog” a case of beer a week. Glad to see you are backing away. Now turn around and run, and don’t look back.
Poster, I really don’t think you should feel bad in the least for dumping this guy. You should feel bad he stained your life in the first place. Dude’s a douche. Go on from here and do much better, no regrets.
anyone that wastes good beer or buys cheap beer just to give to a dog isn’t dating material.
I had a dog like this. I found out when he knocked over my glass when I was out of the room and was drinking it. I don’t think he got inebriated.
After that it started to get annoying because he would try to drink the beer out of my glass so I really couldn’t just set it on the table even if I was there.
A few times I’d get him a bowl and pour a very small amount which he’d drink then leave me alone. Again, I never noticed him seem inebriated or I wouldn’t have done it.
This was pre internet days so I had no easy way to research the issue and it occurred so rarely that I’m not sure I’d have even wondered about it. Had they had and had I known about something like Bowser beer I’d have gotten him a bottle every so often. At the rate he drank it would have lasted a long time.
He went on to have a healthy long life so luckily it didn’t hurt him too much.
I think the fact that they actually make a beer for dog reinforces that enough dogs like it to create a product to fill the need.
Well… it’s not like Bowser Beer has any alcohol in it. Or carbonation, for that matter.
While a sip now and then won’t hurt a dog, of course it matters as to how big the dog is and how much they get. As an ER tech, I’ve seen plenty of alcohol poisonings. All but one were accidental, and the dumbasses who thought it would be funny to get their chihuahua drunk paid the price in more ways than one. One can of beer for an 80-pound lab is not the same as a can of beer for an 8-pound chi.