Sad Kitty Issues

I recently lost my bitey S&M cat, F.lea Bailey to breast cancer. She died two weeks ago. Now my 12 year old kitty apparently has been diabetic for long time and I didn’t know it. I brought her to the vet this morning and she was very sick. she’s now in a diabetic coma with renal failure. she may make it past today, but mentally she’ll not be right at all.

Mind you she never really was and has just laid in one spot in the house for about the past five years doing nothing but shedding–she’s just weird that way. If the vet suggests that I should put her down today should I, or should I do everything i can since it’s my fault i didn’t know anything was wrong with her. I could have saved her if i would have brought her in earlier.

Jeanie, I’m so sorry. I was recently looking at a similar choice for my own beloved cat, Raven, and I was beside myself. I won’t bore you with the details, but it looked like I was going to have to choose between subjecting her to major surgery that had a negligible chance of success (and meant a reduced quality of life even if it did succeed), or just waiting for her to get sick and die (or to put her down if need be).

People who go to extreme lengths to keep their pets alive at any cost always made me angry. But being in that position made me understand a little better what would motivate people to do that. I was having a seriously hard time with the question: would I be able to live with myself if I just let Raven get sick and die, knowing that I didn’t do everything possible? Or would I feel like I let her down or betrayed her somehow?

Fortunately, the whole thing turned out to be a false alarm. I wish the same were true for you and your cat. I like to think I would have had the guts to put Raven down if it had come to that. Take that for whatever it’s worth. I can’t tell a stranger on the internet to put her cat down. If I were to give advice, it would be to heed the doctor’s advice. And whatever you decide, know that you made the best decision you could at the time; after all, that’s all any of us can ever do under any circumstances. Trust that you did the right thing and it was done out of love for your animal.

Please keep us posted.

Oh, BBJ I am so sorry to hear about this! :frowning:

I can’t give you advice on this. Just think of your cat and her life and whether she’ll be happy…

<<<Hugs!>>>

Jeanie, having been in similar circumstances with cats and horses, my first statement is: Stop beating yourself up. If you’d actually KNOWN something was wrong, i’m sure you’d have rushed to do everything you could to make things better.

from my side: one kitty who’d had eating problems for ages, but comments to vet about recurring vomiting were routinely shrugged off; one kitty-gone-blind who became self-destructive after being moved into a brand new house; one greatly-beloved horse who had a respiratory obstruction surgery discouraged by one vet (lazy bastard!) because it was “too risky” and the horse was “too old” (whereas a year later a better veterinary center said they did the same surgery twice a month and when did i want to schedule him?); one very aged pony who contracted West Nile Virus.

every one of them, i sat and pummeled myself for not taking better care of things; not noticing something was wrong sooner; not arguing harder with the doctors; just not being able to make everything all better for them.

but it wasn’t that i didn’t care. i cared so much. so very, very much. so much i’m sniffling even now, just remembering. but i had to face the fact eventually, for each of them, that life wasn’t what it had been, and wasn’t ever going to be that way again. the only one who died “naturally” was the kitty with the food problems. she died at the vet’s home; he’d taken her with him to keep an eye on her overnight while she was (finally) being seriously treated after getting thinner and weak.

the others… i had to make the hard decision that their lives were only going to degrade into continuous suffering if i didn’t step in for them. other kitty shouldn’t have to be continually treated for self-inflicted clawings on her head. my horse shouldn’t have to collapse in acute respiratory distress whenever the temperature got to be 50 degrees or more. my pony shouldn’t have to stagger, trying to keep his balance and remain on his feet, and STILL face a prospect of near-certain permanent neurological damage if he did manage to survive the viral infection.

it sucked.

it sucked so bad.

but it would suck as bad, or more, if all i could do is watch them continue to live in pain, or fear, or constant bewilderment as to why they couldn’t live like they used to.

some of them, i think, realized that it was time to go. some of them might have continued to fight on for as long as they could. my only consolation is that i think i spared them getting beaten down by their conditions, until all the fight had been taken out of them and they were more than ready to die.

i hope that was my mercy to them.

{{BBJ}}

Other kitty lovers share your pain. :frowning:

My sympathies to you. :frowning: I don’t feel I can advise you on what the right thing to do is, but I would say don’t feel like it’s your fault that you didn’t know something was wrong with her. Sometimes animals hide their symptoms until they’re very, very sick and there’s nothing anyone can do about that. I am sure you took good care of her and did the best you could.

Having had to put down two cats of my own this year, I offer my sympathy to you. The way we made the decision was think of the cats “quality of life”. If the cat could benefit and live a long happy life with treatment by all means, however if the cat will never return to their “normal” moving around, it’s best to let it go.

I offer you a hug in friendship because I know how painful the loss of a beloved pet can be. One of my cats lived to 22 years old and it was heartbreaking to put him down, but I knew it was best for him because he was so sick.

I am sure you will make the best decision for your kitty.

hugs

Ask the vet what the chances are of kitty recovering enough to be happy, not just alive. Most vets will be honest and forthright. Ask if there is another vet in the practice who would consult on the case as well. I’ve found that vets don’t seem to have, on balance, some of the ego problems that doctors can have about second opinions.

Diabetes can be managed. It’s doable. Trust your instincts and the vet’s. Ask all of the questions in the world. And perhaps some things could have been avoided if you’d brought her in earlier, but you didn’t. You didn’t notice. You aren’t psychic. You’re doing your best, and that’s all that anyone could ask.

I wish the best for you and kitty.

We lost a cat last February to renal failure (or close to it). She was almost 20 years old, and she had lived with us for nearly 18 years. Both our kids (10 and 13) grew up with her as one of the members of the family.

When she was first diagnosed with renal failure, the vet’s office gave us equipmen to do subcutaneous fluid therapy (http://www.felinecrf.com/managb.htm ). We tried it for about two weeks, but she absolutely hated it. We decided that quality of life was better than quantity, especially since she had lived longer than an average cat already, so we stopped the treatments. She spent the next six months in peaceful, daily routines, with LOTS of sleeping, and as much sunshine as she could absorb.

However, during that time, we noticed that she had a hard time getting into comfortable positions to sleep in, and it was getting more and more difficult for her to jump onto our bed (her favorite sleeping place). It was a hard decision, but we did finally decide that it would be better to end her discomfort before she could no longer get on or off the bed on her own.

Her last day was a warm, sunny day in February (very unusual for Kentucky). We let her spend the morning in a patch of sunshine in the backyard. It was very hard to take her to the vet’s that afternoon, but even now, I’m convinced it was for the best, and I don’t regret the choice at all.

Seagram died while at the vets yesterday. So there was no decision to make. However, they said she was VERY VERY dehydrated. It made me feel awful, but she had been drinking? So I don’t know… I do feel like i could have brought her in sooner because she was a little different in that she started peeing more, but was otherwise fine.

Thank y’all for your support. It’s just awful to lose 2 cats in a month. They were my family.

I’m so sorry. There’s nothing else to say. :frowning:

Renal failure can come on really fast. It wasn’t your fault.

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