Normal routine is something like this: He goes up around 7:00 so I can watch TV since he hates just about everything I like to watch. I go to bed around 10 or 11 (or even mindnight depending on what Oprah’s show was about - unless it’s a weekend and then it depends on if Medium and Strong Medicine is on Lifetime but that’s another story) and by then he’s asleep. I turn off the TV and turn down the scanner and hopefully, get right to sleep. If he’s snoring too loudly or wakes me up in the middle of the night with the TV and the scanner going back up or snoring, then I’ll go sleep on the couch. And yes, we fight about it.
Nope, we’re pretty much like this too. Except sometimes it’s hard to hold hands in the car, if someone wants to actually drive.
Both of us have a very hard time sleeping alone. It happens, of course, because of trips and when he has to stay up late working, or if one of the kids is being an insomniac, but neither of us can go to sleep easily alone.
My husband works shift work in rotation. Seven days of 4 till midnight, three days off, seven days of midnight until 8 a.m., four days off. It’s a three week cycle. We sleep together 1 and a half weeks out of every three. It’s a bit difficult, because I developed chronic insomnia in the late summer, and him being in bed helps me sleep. By preference we’d sleep together all the time (barring bad constant coughing attacks, really awful fever etc.) but it’s not possible right now.
He’s currently asleep, and should wake up in 45 minutes.
Even after nearly two years of sleeping together, my Caveman still hasn’t adjusted. I sleep fine either way, but he’s a really light sleeper. When he’s in bed with me I’m always touching him, so he never really feels rested. He can get by for about a week and then we both notice that he’s grumpy and off one of us goes to the floor for a night (he’s insistent that we still stay in the same room).
He’s also a violent sleeper. He throws himself onto his back and then jacknifes into the fetal position. I often wake up to a refreshing head-butt in the face.
Dave sleeps in our guest bed a couple of times a week. He snores like…something that snores really loudly if he’s had even one drink, so he’s banished. I like having our bed to stretch out in.
I’m in the guest room as I’ve been for about a week. It isn’t my wife who’s asking me, but I’ve got this hacking cough and I hate the thought of waking her up. Especially since we have a toddler, at least one of us needs to get some sleep.
Normally we sleep in the same bed, but our bed is made up of two separate beds. Two extra long-twins put together makes a king-sized bed. With the benefits of being easier to move and my figiting does not affect her.
Mr. Del and I are very touchy, hand-holding, cuddly people when we’re awake, but I’d say we sleep in the same bed about 50% of the time. We don’t have any emotional issues with it, although I’ve noticed when I’ve mentioned this to friends, some people react with horror.
We don’t really plan it in advance, it just works out that we’re sleeping in different places or at different times. Factors include our work schedules, and Mr. Del’s restless leg syndrome. He also tends to fall deeply asleep on the couch while watching TV, if I wake him to move to the bedroom he often cannot get back to sleep, which just seems cruel.
The latest development is that we recently got a new guest bed with a mattress that I love (it’s a single bed that has a day bed underneath). The mattress is firm in the way a slab of concrete is firm, and I feel like I have been waiting my entire life for a mattress like this. I don’t really ever intend to go to sleep on the guest bed, but sometimes I start off reading on the guest bed and end up drifting off.
Mr. SCL snores like a werewolf with a head cold, and I have restless leg syndrome. If either one of those nasty afflictions is kicking up, one of us usually ends up on the very comfy couch in the den. Or the couch in the cat suite if we feel like cuddling with furbabies. We do sleep together most of the time. We also have separate covers, as we both tend to steal them.
My husband is an OTR truck driver, and we’re both used to sleeping alone now, since after 20 years, that’s just what we’re used to. He’s only home on weekends, so, we seem to manage for a couple of nights just fine.
My darling Marcie and I have been married for nearly ten years now and I doubt we’ve actually spent ten nights sleeping in the same bed during that time. Marcie has restless leg syndrome and immediately kicks the covers off the foot of the bed; she can’t sleep if her feet are covered and I can’t sleep if mine aren’t. I snore so loudly that I often wake myself up—I find myself looking around, wondering “What the hell was that?” Plus, I am now working nights and often don’t get to bed until 4:30 or 5:00 AM; Marcie wakes up at 6:30. However, we do hold hands a lot and we do a lot of incidental touching. We regularly make time for a TNC, and that is always nice.
