Has your email inbox been swamped yet from frustrated female Dopers? 
I wonder if the wording of the choices is ambiguous enough to allow for a dildo/fingers/etc. loophole vis-a-vis vaginal sex. I bet that at least a few people choosing #1 are assuming that fingers and dildoes are allowed.
If the choices were between an all-embracing definition of sodomy vs. vaginal penetration and G-spot orgasms, it would be a tougher choice, especially for women.
But in the mini-series Laura San Giacomo played Nadine. Not a bad substitute, if you as me.
I’d go with #1 for a physical-only relationship. Don’t know which I would pick if it was with someone I was going to be with.
If we’re using The Stand as our guide, it was made pretty clear that physical virginity (i.e. no penetration) was the standard. Harold was allowed to perform cunnilingus and anal sex on her, but wasn’t allowed to break the seal.
I beg to differ. Just because someone likes to do it doesn’t mean they’re any good. 
Oh, I’m good at it.
My experience with oral sex (as a man receiving it) has been that women who like to give head are invariably good at it (some better than others, of course).
I love when the smiley comes up during cunnilingus conversations.
Better than the stupid embarrassed one, which I can’t code (my smileys don’t work automatically on Citrix, I have to code them.)
I think we’re missing some context here. Harold was a virgin, he’d never had vaginal sex and came to feel that everything he did with Nadine was as worthless as a spank bank in 3D. that makes the choice a little more tricky for me.
#2.
I’ve hooked up with 3 women who wanted only to blow and it gets old. I stopped looking at them as desirable women, just blow jobs.
One of them didn’t like to be petted even. She just wanted a cock in her mouth.
But that’s not what option #1 says. Option number one is everything but vaginal intercourse. You’d have cunnilingis, petting, biting (if…you’re into that), role playing, sodomy and the like.
If you were just having vaginal, wouldn’t you be thinking of the woman just as a means for sex? (And I know I’m setting myself up for a joke here…)
Maybe I should clarify:
- Everything except penetration of the vagina.
- Vaginal sex with no anal sex, oral sex, or other “exotic” practices. One would still be permitted a certain amount of foreplay. Imagine sex as Ward and June Cleaver might have had it.
My email is listed in my member profile. I’m just sayin’…
I’d say #1. Foreplay? The feast before the beast. Kissing, cuddling, wiping my lover out with a tasty cascade of cunnilingus-induced orgasms, more kissing? Or just vaginal intercourse.
Is it me or are men who are going for #1 also men who crave going down on their women?
Sorry, variety is the spice of life.
Scumpup? Thanks. Here I was, feeling all happy and tingly.
Ward and June? :o
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Well, if we’re putting foreplay on the table ( 
clean up before dinner, please!), then I’d like to change my answer. I pretty much gave up kink when I decided to marry my husband, and I’ve been quite happy nonetheless.
Not on your life.
Eldridge and June Cleaver, maybe.
My last marriage was a very limited amount of #2 only. Nothing else. Was really annoying, but then, I married a selfish sociopathic nutjob.
So if forced to chose between those polarities, I’d say #1.
Knowing full well that I’d be unhappy with that after a while too.
(Of course, re-reading the above, I have to say laugh at the first line. My marriage was full of shit, so “very limited amount of #2” is somewhat ironic.)
Put me down for #1; I’m an oral sex fan (giving and receiving)!!
Yeah, it makes a difference to me whether we’re talking about The Handmaids Tale, or a mutually acceptable amount of foreplay. In the latter case I’m probably going for #2
My heart goes out to you BarnOwl. I’d like to help, so please pass along the contact information of these gals.
I should be picturing the missionary position, almost fully clothed, but somehow I’m pictuing Hugh Beaumont with a ball gag and leather cuffs, and Barbara Billingsley in a Gestapo uniform and stilletos, with a cat-o-nine-tails.
Thanks very much.