One of each.
“Male, prefer a sex life with a spouse who is less than completely faithful”; I don’t actually want to get married in the first place, so if I have to I might as well get some sex out of the deal. Nor do I care if she’s “unfaithful” to an arrangement I don’t want, so it all works out.
Both options sound miserable, i prefer singlehood.
Intersting results.
Males are pretty much evenly split between these two unappealing options; females OTOH overwhelmingly find the sexless but faithful as the less awful choice. Nobody claiming that orientation makes any difference whatsoever.
Not sure what the take away on that is … but it is interesting.
Ditto.
I prefer your Wife be unfaithful with me.
could/would less than completely faithful option be certified disease and baby free?
I really don’t want to live without a sex life – the complete lack of it destroyed the marriage I just got out of – so I’m taking the opposite choice. I suppose I wouldn’t mind the “unfaithful” situation at all if I was never aware of it… the poll doesn’t make that explicitly clear.
Male, I voted sex with unfaithful wife.
I have tried the sexless with faithful wife and it sucks. Maybe the other option is better.
I voted “Other” - both an active sex life and spousal faithfulness are deal-breakers for me. I’d end my marriage if either were taken off the table by my wife.
I’d still love her, and I’d still want to be friends with her, but either would be such a radical change in the foundations of our marriage that I would consider it a nullification of our marriage agreement on her part and would proceed accordingly.
This assumes permanent sexlessness, BTW, I’m perfectly cool with long periods of no sex but anything longer than, say, 1 year would be too much.
I’m a lot less flexible on the unfaithfulness - any is too much.
To be honest I’d actually be perfectly fine in a sexless romantic relationship as it is. If someday I find the perfect guy who I think will just be an absolute wonderful life partner, but he says to me after a couple dates, “Look drew there’s something I have to tell you. I don’t like sex. Not oral sex, not anal sex. Nothing. Making out and cuddling is great but if we’re going to be together there will never be any sex. And furthermore I won’t be comfortable with you having sex with anyone else.” I’d be open minded to that relationship. Sex isn’t THAT important to me if I’m getting all the good love and support I need 
But this guy would have to be pretty damn perfect!
So the choice for me is easily sexless marriage and faithful spouse.
Yeah, I’m with Drew. A romantic relationship short of ‘intercourse’ is actually pretty ok with me and I’m no stranger to platonic roommate relationships+cuddling.
A married female here. There is no question here for me, I’d take the unfaithfulness anyday. I can function easily 3-4 days without sex, after that I start to get frustrated and difficult to be around for everyone (not just my partner). My co-workers dread the times my husband is travelling for work, so I’m not good at hiding my mood swings either. 
I get grumpy if I go without it for more than a week or so. A sexless marriage is one of the reasons why my marriage of 17 years fell apart. That stated - I do not want a cheating partner even if the sex was amazing. And the same rules apply for me. I think that if one or both people in a relationship need to have sex with others, it should be discussed. Unfaithfulness is very rarely not suspected and eventually out in the open.
I’d leave someone who cheated and lied, but I’d be perfectly willing to have an open relationship if my partner struggled with monogamy. I wouldn’t put up with no sex, though. It’s the cement that holds a romantic relationship together, IMO.
Having lived in a sexless relationship for 4 years, I’m with you. In the end, I left so that I could find someone that did want sex.
Having gone without for the past few months… I would BY FAR take the cheating spouse. Heck, I’ve encouraged my It’s Complicated to go get some (he refuses). I’m scratching at walls to get him to come back to my bed. If this time in my life has taught me anything, it’s that a girl’s got NEEDS.
I tend to go for long stretches where sex just isn’t that interesting. I have a lot of other things I’d rather spend my time, energy, and creativity on. It’s fun for a moment but, eh, not really worth the effort. And, honestly, I don’t find it makes me feel terribly much closer to my partner. So my initial thought is that I’d prefer a sexless but faithful marriage.
However, I am just ornery enough that if I thought I couldn’t have sex, I’d probably really, really want it. Just because. So maybe that wouldn’t work out so well.
Being in a relationship where you can have sex if you want to is light years from being in a relationship where you can’t have sex at all.
Been there, done that.
I started this thread several months ago but it seems relevant here.
Other: I would rather be alone, TYVM than in either of those situations.