My kids are probably not spoiled, but they really don’t do much in the way of chores. In order of priority, do their homework, walk the dog, put away their clean clothes from the laundry, bring in the empty trash cans. If they bring home good grades they are rewarded, this has been $20 for straight As and $10 for all As and Bs for a grading period. If they get all As for the whole year they get another $20 at the end of the year. I might change this a bit this year as my daughter starts middle school, maybe on a per class basis. We’ll see.
They each have one regular “extra curricular activity”, my daughter has been playing soccer for five years, my son has played soccer previously but now plays baseball. Just with these two each in one sport it can be a tremendous amount of getting around. My daughter’s soccer team has games that span several counties during the regular season, with some as much as an hour away. It’s a choice we make, especially as I think it’s good for them to balance physical endeavour with school work, and as some studies have shown, particularly for girls, that sports participation can help avoid some very unwanted other “activities”.
Up until now we’ve not given them extra allowance, but I am going to start to put some into their bank acount on a regular basis, for school or other important things that might come up.
They never ask me for anything while in the store. They get a few presents at their birthday and christmas, but most of the christmas presents come from my parents, who give a certain amount for each of their grandkids (plus a Savings Bond on their birthdays). They also tend to get ice cream or such when they visit grandma, and sometimes I take grandma to task for that.
My daughter has asked me about a cellphone and getting her ears pierced recently (she’ll be 12 in December). I told her she doesn’t need a cellphone, and she’s lost that argument to-date (Most of my friends have one… what if I need to reach you in an emergency? Answer: borrow one of your friend’s phones. )
The earrings I have said no, but for no good reason. I just want her to be the last of her friends to get them, and am gauging how serious she is about it. Maybe when she’s a little older.
My son and daughter both have a Gameboy DS, but neither has anything more modern. Some of my son’s friends (twin brothers) gave him an old TV gaming system that they weren’t using anymore, but I have generally resisted TV console games as we only have one TV hooked to cable (there is another in our bedroom hooked to a DVD and VCR) and I don’t want to have to compete for time. They’re not allowed to watch TV after 8 pm on school nights, 9 pm on other nights, but they are usually allowed to stay up later if they are reading, my indulgence. After 8 pm they are only allowed to eat raw vegetables or fruit, no snacks or sweets.