My wife and I are very close friends with another family. We have kids the same age and we go to the same church. My father-in-law married their mother/mother-in-law two years ago, so we are together on holidays and family functions as well. We live about 2 minutes away from each other. Usually we vacaion together as well. We are really one extended family.
We have so much in common and we enjoy each other’s company immensely.
But they spoil their kids.
Rotten.
They go waaaay overboard buying gifts for Christmas (IMHO). Their 8 year old got an XBox and a TV for his room as well HALO 2, which is rated “T” for teen, among a long list of other expensive items…whatever, that is their perogative.
But this weekend we went to Great Wolf Lodge for the boy’s 9th birthday. It was me and my wife and the other couple and SEVEN KIDS. The rooms were $290 each. The mother paid for everything. That was his “Big Present” you see. Followed by what I guess were the “small presents” like a dance mat for his Play Station, several games for his XBox and Play Station, a football, clothes and other random trinkets.
We got to GWL about 7pm Friday night and left Saturday around 3pm. Apparently it is so important that her kid have a stupendous 9th birthday that I am required to give up 20 hours of my weekend. I know I could have declined, but we KNOW what each other is doing on any given day so my only excuse would have been “I just don’t want to…”, which may not have been such a bad idea, but may have insulted them.
Whatever happened to cake and ice cream and family and friends for birthdays?
How they spoil their kids is up to them. I am trying hard to raise my kids to be responsible and not materialistic. I am having a hard time balancing this with taking my kids to participate in what I consider to be inapropriately lavish offerings to their kids. So what do I do?
I don’t want to damage our relationship, but I cannot abide another event dedicated to the pleasure of a 9 year old.