Holy Cow!
Ok, first, we all know people(single mothers) who did a FAB-U-LOUS! job, and we all know people who never should have been parents.
STATISTICALLY…we know most 16 year olds dont make great moms, they end up on welfare,in housing projects,unhappy and all that stuff.
Its like that thread: Does she even know his name?..we all have heard horror stories, and sucess stories. But we all favor the cautious route.
This is a common sense thing.
Are we not the same people who encouraged Cessandra to wait to be engaged because that is a big commitment at age 18?
Well, a baby at age 16 is a *life long *commitement, you cant get a divorce from motherhood. (Yes, I know people abandon kids etc…but go with me on this one.)
My points are
a)At sixteen, she cant possibly understand the ramifications of being the sole parent for a tiny helpless human.
b)if she keeps the baby, the rest is all hit or miss. IF she finishes school, IF she gets support from the dad, IF she gets help from her mom, IF she can find a job, IF she can juggle, alone and very young, the demands of a baby, school, and the teen life…IF she can successfully navigate all this, she may end up with a happy well adjusted child.
c) if she gives the baby up, it will have 2 parents, (who have been screened through the wazoo) who can financially cope with a baby, who are deeply commited already (years on a waiting list). So the baby makes out like a bandit, and she STILL has the rest of her life to be whatever she wants to make of herself. High school, college, maybe travel, then someday marry and get a house, then when she is ready…a baby.
Whatever she decides, I sincerely wish her the best of luck.
Abortin is hard to forget, and with adoption you know you have a kid somewhere, and wonder how the child is, birthdays will be hard etc. There is no easy answer.