Personal insults aren’t allowed in MPSIMS, Telperien.
Thank you. There is actually lots of wisdom embedded in that post and it has nothing to do with me. If you are in that situation, you have to figure out what your priorities are. I get the feeling the OP really just wants to get in her pants and that is way too dangerous. If that isn’t the case, being friends may be a good option if he just enjoys her company although the situation sounds extremely immature for someone and his friends in their 20’s. If emotions start to run a little high, he may have to cut off most contact but that is a little harder if it is a classmate. People in similar situations at workplaces do it all the time though.
Note to Estilicon: The above is your first clue whether someone is dating material.
(Hint, the answer is “no.”)
It is, in fact!
But cheating is not exactly a new fad. I believe that the rates of cheating have stayed more or less the same across millenia and across cultures. Did you know that the rate of women cheating is more or less the same in places like Iran and Saudi Arabia as it is in other cultures? I think that’s really fascinating.
Bad juju. Bad, bad, bad:
Marriage is supposed to be a serious commitment; interest in participating in that kind & level of deception indicates that the deceiver does not, frankly, take the commitment particularly seriously. So:
Say you involve yourself in a “relationship” with this woman. You’re looking for a commitment from a woman who’s a coward - and dishonest, to boot. Rather than laying it out & telling him it’s not working, she willing to deceive the man to whom she made what was supposed to be a lifelong promise.
If you get involved on a purely sexual level,…well, even if you get involved in a ‘relationship’, I’d get tested for everything, frequently. She’s proven she’s willing to actively deceive her husband; why would she mention to you (some guy) that she has an STD? I know a person who lies about one thing might not lie about other things, but why risk it?
Something, too, that I haven’t seen mentioned is this: You mention that you dislike the fact that she shows “disrespect for him”. That tells you something about her personality that should be a red flag.
And while you wouldn’t be breaking her promise to her husband, you would be helping her break a promise to her husband. Saying that if you don’t, some other guy will is just equivocation on your part.
…And on a more physical level, there’s the aforementioned possibility of her husband grabbing a weapon and coming after you. No good.
You got the wrong guy. This is my first thread about this subject.
I needed to hear the voice of sanity because this situation has been going for almost a year.
There was always flirting but I consider flirting something pretty mild. The thing is that a couple of months ago, in a party (her husband wasn’t there), she told me:
She: You really like me, don´t you?
Me: … but you are married.
She: That depends on the guy (I don’t know exactly what she meant but I have a pretty good idea).
Finally, last Saturday we were at another party and I was inches away from taking her home. Again, her husband wasn’t there.
If you add to this whole situation that I broke with my girlfriend almost a year ago, that between college and work I don’t have much personal time, that I am not into hookers and that my friends are not helping, the situation is pretty difficult. And there is something more: I know, because she told other friends, that her husband has cheated on her at least on one occasion. But all of this is the trained lawyer rationalizing the fact that he wants to get laid with her.
As I said I value the voice of sanity.
My old position on this issue was, “If it doesn’t bother her, it shouldn’t bother me.” As I’ve aged, though, that’s changed. While there’s still no obligation to consider the husband’s needs or feelings, it’s just somewhere I could no longer go if I were still single unless I loved and intended to be with the woman in a long-term relationship.
Sounds like she’s trying to line you up as the latest tool in her ongoing revenge.
Well, then from a purely legal perspective - I have exactly zero non-TV knowledge of the law, but you would likely know whether this is true: if he’s cheated and she hasn’t, isn’t she in a better position if she decides to divorce him? And if so, why help her throw away that bargaining chip?
I was going to tell you that instead of just sleeping with her you should get her to leave her husband first then have sex with her and quickly bail afterwards. Based on your last post where they are both cheating on each other I’d say go for it just get yourself tested afterwards.
The answer is a resounding No.
I’m also in the “don’t do it” camp, but folks, let’s go easy on Estilicon.
When I was in my mid-20s I had a similar circumstance with a married woman I worked with, and the right thing to do was much less obvious to me at the time. (Nothing ended up happening, by the way.)
Though, to say Esty and his friends have some growing up to do is not necessarily an insult. Didn’t we all at that age? 
No, actually, the situation isn’t pretty difficult. You’re making it difficult by considering what is clearly an unwise course of action. This woman (do I sense a pattern?) appears to be a wack job and you find yourself attracted to her against your better judgment.
Stop listening to your penis. It hasn’t been doing a good job so far.
:smack:
Yeah, that will prevent all the possible negative outcomes that people have described in this thread. :rolleyes:
What pattern? I told you, you got me confused with someone else 
+1. I have no personal experience with this, but from Dear Abbey the “I don’t love my husband, my wife doesn’t understand me” justification seems to be a lie up there with “the check is in the mail.” Is she really doesn’t love him, she can do something about it.
Plus, it sounds like the entire world knows your business. Succumbing to temptation will not make you look good.
However, if you ever to wish to run for office as a Republican, this could be good practice.
d&r
If you like her, she likes you, she doesn’t lover her husband anymore, and you want to fool around no problem. Have her get a divorce first.
Until then she is a spineless person for not doing so.
Fucking someone without a spine is sooo gross.