But what you describe doing is exactly what many people mean by it. “Treasure each other.” From the context of JohnMace’s other posts, I’m pretty sure this is all his wife is, forlornly, hoping for.
Father of 3 kids here, 2 boys and the youngest is a girl. I often told my daughter while she was growing up that “you are always my princess, but you cannot ever be a princess” - a subtle yet very important distinction.
She’ll be 25 soon, and she’s a good kid. Tough, self-assured, gets along great with others, a lady, and definitely not a princess. All this despite the mental anguish I tried to inflict. In a couple of months she’ll be leaving on a 4-month cross-country solo road trip. California, up to Alaska, then over to NY and New England, then south to Florida, then back. Simply an adventure.
I’m pretty proud of her.
Oops, of course I meant JohnClay there. No resemblance to John Mace; apologies.
My thinking exactly. It irritates me to hear women say they deserve a guy who will treat them like a princess with no evident indication that they will likewise treat the guy as a prince.
I’m in charge of all the big decisions in our household. It’s only been thirty years, and the Wife promises she will let me know if know if one does come up.
Let her be a princess, fantasy is good as long as the scheduled cooking and cleaning gets done. What’s the harm? If she demands special treatment by playing the princess card, patiently explain that she’s a princess, just not in that particular context. Meanwhile, get her one of those cardboard crowns at burger king.
I haven’t been getting out much lately.
As you wish your highness 
oh my gosh,kayaker, you are hilarious! where is the busting up laughing icon?
what about dads who treat their daughters like a princess? in fairness, moms sometimes do a version of this with their sons though
im not sure which parent tends to be more extreme, a dad who always sees his daughter as his little princess and will kill anyone who even looks at her funny, and gets her everything she wants etc. and any future son in law beware when meeting protector dad… OR, a mom to her son, especially a firstborn son, ,…any future daughter in law will forever be under the watchdog mom and likely not good enough for her baby boy…that mom and baby boy thing almost seems more entrenched
Don’t drag a topic from one thread into another in the manner you did here.
The princess thing is bad enough aimed at little girls but it’s flat out gross aimed at adult women. I don’t think a woman who wasn’t really immature would ever say she wants to be treated like a princess.
I think parents, and fathers to daughters as you say, who do this do a general disservice to mankind. Doing this makes life miserable for the men who become their boyfriends/husbands. Either that, or the proliferation of such girls creates a “market” for such pansy-ass asswipes who think they are men, cultivating more of them, and this becomes a disservice to society.
That is why upthread, here, I would tell my daughter when raising her that she is always my princess, but she cannot be a princess.
Pfft. Goddess is more like it!
I believe women should be put on a pedestal. Just high enough to look up their dress.
Stolen from Steve Martin
When my mother has called me “princess”, she’s clearly implied that I’m spoiled or always want to get my own way, so I hate the term.
“So you want a tiara, a big poufy dress, and a curse from a wicked fairy? Well, OK…”
Gee I don’t know. Maybe that works for you and Tennille but I am suspicious of adopting any kind of identity role that involves arbitrary capitalisation.
I’ve read PUA materials and they say to do things like tease super hot girls a bit, etc… not think they’re “the one” or put her on the pedestal like she’s the perfect girl. In the past I did think some girls were 9’s - there was one young teen I talked to on the phone… I suggested she come with me to my friend’s house and watch porno’s. i.e. I didn’t really put her on a pedestal. BTW I do show my wife a lot of love, just not the princess level where I consistently always put her first.