Sibling's & Children

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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I have a (almost)17yr.old autistic boy,and an xtremely bright,although quite socially slow(possbly due to the wreckage of my past & till she was 8 1/2 in a English as a 2nd language school)10 yr old girl.Don’t think asperger’s for those familiar w/spectrum.Anyhow, they’re grand,(my ma)ma died on leap day & since,sib.s removed my family from pic… Cuz grand(pa)pa is thankfully still alive(77) they "invite"us but Matty is shooed away because sib’s don’t want him wetting thru his diaper’s or in bro’s case, spilling his wine/beer.Mom held family together,now they make the resentment’s toward me & mine open.My parent’s helped support us (& continue to)is reason they have so much angst toward us.There’s to much of a family war going on to really get full picture out but that’s it not so much in an eggshell.Sorry so long but I’m really new to board’s,internet & for that matter sobriety(oh, yeah that’s a prob too- they are under opinion since I been off the smack two yr.s out of of 25, I should almost cold turkey it off the methadone)since I wont, I been excomunicated.I need to know, will I be hurting children by blowing of family holiday’s?Grandma made them extraviganza’s)

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Welcome to the SDMB.

I’m going to try to translate this… please correct me if I’ve gotten it wrong.

  • You have a 17 yo son who is autistic, and a 10 yo daughter who has social issues;
  • Your parents have been helping to support you and your children, but your mother passed away earlier this year, leaving your father;
  • Your siblings are angry that your parents have been supporting you, and although your father continues to invite you and your children over, your siblings treat them poorly;
  • I’m not sure if you mean you’re on methadone as part of your recovery from drugs, or if you took it previously, but it seems that your addiction history is a source of frustration as well.
  • Your question is should you avoid putting yourself and your children into this continuing dysfunction by avoiding the holiday get-together, or if it will hurt the children more to not attend.

Right?

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Yes, that’s pretty close.If you look at my other thread,you’ll get alittle more understading bout the 'done.Also correct on the abuse history causing frustration.32yr’s out of 45.Only thing wrong is the sib’s are doing the inviting cuz they feel they must out of (homage?)to dad.
I feel inviting will end when dad passes.

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^^