Oh Val, that outing is going to be memorable…
Anyways, I totally agree. I don’t think that kissing has lost its thrill, just that the agenda has changed. Just like everyone has commented, the old beautiful teen days of making out was all about the thrill of experimenting and slowly pushing that boundry back little by little. So since both parties know that the decision usually has already been made (although I’ve experience times when the making out has altered the plan) the making out is best cut short if its not going anywhere. While i love making out, being left hanging isn’t fun. In high school it was worth it, but now it depends. Also the emotional baggage is much bigger. If a guy gets led on now you could be getting into dangerous territory, and its smart to keep thing clear and understood. In high school neither party knew what they wanted or were ready for, so they just made out until nature sorted things out.
Now while I understand the reasons (I think) it doesn’t make it more acceptable. I had this exact conversation on another MB, and with a couple of friends. I lamented about missing kissing until my lips were sore, and the thrill of finally getting the nerve to unhook that bra and touch the warm soft skin of her breast. Now its jump right in, and get some. The thrill is different. Another flaw in getting old, but hey now we get to drink :D.
I have under the right circumstances when sex has been eliminated from possibility for number of reasons enjoyed some truly spirited make out sessions, and they were as great as I remembered. The thrill was different, it was about what we couldn’t have, instead of what we were unsure or afraid of. Either way its still some wonderfully powerful emotions.
And you know what? I still make out. Yes, most women I date are (most pleasantly) surprised that not only am I familiar with the ars makus outus but that I practice them eagerly, at 22. I agree that there’s something, well, magical about prolonged intiamcy. It gets the blood pumping, the juices flowing, heightens the senses for better foreplay, and then, after orgasms that are more powerful for both of us, (compared to foreplay and makeout-less sex) the sex drive is more sated.