What the hell is going on? Have men been lliving in caves? Do most women have their lips sealed shut?
I have had the alarming experience in recent days of being kissed and groped by 4 different men. (yeah, I’m a slut. That was a reputation established way back in '73, I really can’t be bothered worrying about it now.) These are the first new men to do such things to me in more than a decade. (Yeah, I broke up…took a year of major grieving. I snapped out of it at last…hence the gropefest.) Before you ask: yes, it was at different times. Jeez…I’m a slut but I’m not that bad!
3 of them were in my age group: 40-50.
The 4th turned 22 about 5 minutes ago.
Three of the four men were grabby, grasping, pushy, hurting, and their kissing skills ranged from simply bad to “You’re fucking kidding me with this shit, right? Where’s the hidden camera?”
The 4th was knee-buckling in his skills across the board.
Wild guess which was which.
This led me to call my therapist and let him know that my preference for very young men actually, it turns out, has pretty much nothing to do with some weird Mommy neurosis and everything to do with simply getting my needs met!!!
So here’s my question for my fellow ladies: do ANY of you actually respond to a FIRST kiss where a guy leads with a hard tongue pointing straight out of his mouth and into your face like a missile? And how many of you would that be, if any? I’d like to get a little cross section of gals responding to this to see if there’s something going on that I don’t understand, because I do not know one woman in my real life who finds this remotely appealing, ever, even a little. Yet so many men, and all of them s3everal decades into active sex lives, are doing this. I cannot begin to fathom how this can be so.
Two possibilities are: a whole bunch of women out there DO like it, I just have never met a single one of them, OR… (and I’m really thinking this is the ticket) there’s a whole bunch of women out there who don’t have the nerve, the self-confidence, to let their clueless, clumsy partner that his kisses suck, in a really bad way. They also dont’ tell him that his manhandling and pinching and grabbing blows pretty badly too. And they let him go through life like this, almost certainly sentencing him to a more limited sex life than he might otherwise enjoy if he’d get a clue or two.
So what is it, ladies? Are there hoards of you out there who just turn to a puddle when a guy you’ve never slept with grabs you, sucks on your face, and bites you so hard it hurts in the first 3 minutes of physical contact, or what?
DISCLAIMER: Please note that I am referring to the FIRST contact between people who are not lovers already. Once you have an established exual relationship, all this kind of stuff can come into play sometimes as part of a wide repertoire of sexual activities. That is not what I’m talking about.