As a kid, I figured I came from a boring, squeaky clean, all-American family. We made the Cleaver family look like drunken whore-monger axe-murderers!! :eek: OK, that bubble burst with one uncle’s multiple marriages, :eek: and when a couple of cousins divorced, :eek: but for the most part, we were a model of decorum and wholesome family values.
Then I grew up and my mom started telling me things that tossed a mess of tarnish against the shiny family tree. I expect at one time in certain society, we would be forever scarred by the misbehaviors of our relatives. Now it’s just an interesting chapter in the family history.
I remember learning at a young age that my grandfather’s brother “lived in sin” with a woman. :eek: But he died before I was born and there were no children from that sinful arrangement, so it was easy enough to ignore. Then I found out one of my cousins was not the daughter of my uncle. Apparently my aunt got herself “in trouble” :eek: and moved out of state where she married my uncle who raised my cousin as his own.
It’s also pretty much accepted that another uncle’s daughter really isn’t his – we figure wife #5, who was almost 20 years younger than my uncle, indulged in extracurricular activities. :eek: It was assumed that this uncle was sterile, tho I’m not sure why. One doesn’t ask about such things.
And just this weekend, I learned that another aunt, who died when I was a toddler, was living with her husband and another man, and pretty much everyone agrees that her daughter was sired by the other man. :eek: It was also said that her husband beat her, although no one knows for sure why she stayed with him. Then again, it was the 50s – what else could she do?
I suppose these may sound pretty dull, but in my straight-laced hard-core Catholic family, they were pretty bad and not to be spoken of, let alone condoned. After all, one does not readily admit that so many of the women in one’s family are so slutty!! :eek: Apart from shattering the illusion that I had from my very youngest days, none of these revelations change anything about me or my life.
But they do make me nosy – did you find out about any family scandals once you were deemed to be “old enough” to deal with them? )Like a friend of mine who was into her 30s before she found out her mother had been married before marrying her father! :eek: ) Do share…