My wife is sick. She wandered off to bed early this evening, and there were dirty dishes in the sink. As I was cleaning them up, I was trying hard not to make too much noise, but doing dishes quietly is not one of my many talents. I felt bad about keeping her awake (assuming she didn’t sleep through it), but I felt good about not leaving the mess.
My wife would rather listen to William Shatner sing gospel duets with Gilbert Gottfried all night than get up in the morning to dirty dishes in the sink.
I, on the other hand, hate being awakened or kept awake (with a few rather obvious exceptions). The thought of going to sleep with dirty dishes in the sink doesn’t bother me at all. When I was in college, there were always dirty dishes in the sink.
I would be so happy the dishes were getting done I love my husband, but I do the dishes most often. I don’t care if I were already in bed, I would be thrilled if he did the dishes!
When I was in college and also for some time shortly afterward, I was like the OP; dirty dishes didn’t bother me in the slightest. These days, though, they do. I don’t know whether having kids changed me or what, but I can’t stand to get up in the morning and see a sink full of dishes. I would definitely rather be briefly roused from sleep by the sound of clanking dishes, than get up to find them all dirty and waiting to be cleaned.
I just realized I checked the wrong selection voting on my own poll. Must be time for bed. I meant to pick #2 instead of #1. As I said in the OP, I’d rather sleep.
I have problems getting to sleep and staying asleep. However, I also hate to wake up to dirty dishes. If I’m sick, I think that I’d rather be able to sleep…and wake to the sound of dishes being washed and then breakfast being cooked in the morning.
I use a white noise CD while I’m sleeping. Apartment living lends to unpredictable quiet and noise, plus I have an “off” schedule that doesn’t jibe with the 9 to 5ers. The soothing steady white noise solves all that. Someone in the kitchen doing dishes wouldn’t bother me in the least.
Are you for real? What is she going to do if you leave them is the question? Are you going to get reprimanded in the morning or are you looking for an excuse not to do them?
I am Meh on this one. I hate doing dishes by hand and I would buy a diswasher.
As your wife is sick and it is very important to her not to have dirty dishes in the sink, I would have washed the dishes as quietly as possible. You do things like that to be nice.
My husband does probably 90% of the house cleaning including dishes. I’m trying to imagine the look on his face if I demanded that he wash quieter because I was trying to sleep. :eek:
However, to the actual poll - I’d rather have the dishes done - assuming he wasn’t actually banging pot lids together like cymbals (which is what I would suspect would happen if I DID tell him to wash quieter) it wouldn’t bother me at all - besides, how long does it really take to do dishes? 10 minutes?
I wouldn’t care either way. If I had someone who did dishes that is. And in any case, I wouldn’t hear from my bedroom. But if there were there the next day I wouldn’t care either.
I actually find the noise of my partner doing something nice to be soothing, in a nurturing, “thank goodness that’s one less thing I have to worry about,” kind of way. Our bedroom is too far from the kitchen for this to be of literal concern for me, but I’d be glad to be roused by a little noise in return for a job I don’t have to do, especially when I’m sick. (I suffer from mother guilt when I’m sick.)
I can sleep through anything, and I don’t care if the sink is full of dirty dishes. I voted for “go ahead, clean the dishes”, but I could just as easily have voted for “sleep & don’t do the dishes” instead.
I live alone so the dishes only get done once a week. If I was being kept awake by the noise of the dishes being done I’d much rather get sleep then have the dishes done so that’s how I voted.
In reality I can and have slept throught earthquakes and I normally start the laundry right before I go to bed even though the machines share a wall with my bedroom. There is no way doing the dishes would keep me awake if I was sick.
I love my husband, but I do the dishes most often. I don’t care if I were already in bed, I would be thrilled if he did the dishes!