There are people I wouldn’t trouble to piss on if they were on fire, but I don’t actively hate anybody right now. Hating consumes too much energy unless you are in a position to actually do something harmful to the hated one.
Well, first let me say that I don’t expend daily energy on these guys.
One I seldom think of, unless someone brings him up - that’s an ex-boss who is just cruel and really enjoys using his power to torture people.
The second is Celtling’s paternal Grandfather. For whatever reason, her Father insists on bringing him to see her occasionally. I wish he would just keep the guy out of her life. He is a racist, extreme misogynist, and generally enjoys being as abrasive as possible at all times. I do not want him in her life at all, but for the moment its a battle I keep to myself. My goal is to be present whenever he is, so that I can monitor his behavior, and he knows that I am doing so. If I try to boot him out completely, C’Dad would just sneak her out to see him, and then I couldn’t protect her.
If I had the chance to kill these guys and not get caught, I would. I would prefer for it to be a slow painful death. But I’d never risk going to prison for them. In many ways, being a person like that is it’s own punishment. Neither has any long term friends to speak of, and neither is a happy person.
So I’ll satisfy myself with watching their unhappiness.
I have it on good authority that Anaamika Hates Chuck Norris
Hate’s a strong word. I don’t usually have time or energy enough to spend on those I love, let alone those I dislike.
But, (you knew there was a but, right?) there’s at least one old man whom I still regret not punching. I know, that not having thrown that punch was better for me than throwing would’ve been. I know that throwing it then, or now, would diminish me as person. I still regret that I didn’t throw it, and, if I ever see this waste of perfectly good fertilizer again, I will rectify that.
I hate George W. Bush. I know that doing will not accomplish anything, but I hate him anyway. He is one of the worst human beings in the history of the planet.
I can’t bring myself to hate Mr. Bush, and I don’t think he’s anywhere NEAR one of the worst people on the planet. I think he was horribly overmatched by the crises of his presidency, and I think he made a crucial error very early on (in the post-9/11 days) that snowballed and led to many bad decisions.
There’s a quote by (I think?) Garrison Keillor, “When you hate someone, you MAKE them part of your life.”
And it’s true. That’s what I always think of when there are the anti- gay, race, immigrant, various religions hate groups. “If they upset you so much? Why are you obsessing on them?”
There’s been one person in my life that I actually had a honest real hatred. A family member. But I’m a firm believer also in the idea that the opposite of hate/love is indifference.
And I’m finally indifferent.
One day I’ll find out he died. I don’t even think I’ll be happy. I think I’ll just think “oh.”
I used to hate my ex, then I figured that I only lost her while she lost me, so I came out way ahead of the deal. Certain friends and family members, though, may not take so expansive a view: my little sister has threatened to kick the crap out of her if she ever sets foot in town again.
Yes. But I have a pocket voodoo doll that I stab when it gets too much for me. 50 weeks out of the year I’m indifferent. The other two I get stabby.
Actually, loath, is a better word than hate for what I feel. Why yes, this is one of the 2 weeks.
You know, you can hate someone without being obsessed with them, or even thinking about them every day. Maybe that’s just my definition of hate. There are people I love who I haven’t seen in a while and who I don’t think about all the time, but when I do think about them, I feel the love and affection. Same with people I hate, in reverse. It’s not an all-consuming, overwhelming, driving thing, like The Bride in Kill Bill or The Count of Monte Cristo or anything. I just have strong negative feelings about a handful of really deserving people, and that doesn’t just go away. I don’t feed the feelings, so they’ve faded in intensity over time, but I’m sure if I ran into any of the people in question, it’d flare right up.
Your Uncle’s quote is great, I like it.
I’m glad someone else got a chuckle out of that one.
There are four people on my list right now. I don’t spend time actively hating them, but when they come up in conversation, it reminds me of how much I wouldn’t bother pissing in their ear if their brain caught on fire.
And if I ever hear of bad things happening to them, it will fill my day with glee and happiness.
I have feelings like this over a couple of people, too. But I’ve never lived through a situation like that so don’t know if I really would feel joyous and happy or something entirely else. I’d really like to hear about people’s actual feelings when bad things happened to people they hate.
I have fleeting moments of irrational hatred for people doing two things now that the weather is turning warm. Thing 1 - sitting on the deck with friends in the evening and having to SHOUT over the drone of the lawnmowers in the three yards adjoining mine. I know it’s irrational, and they have to mow sometime, but why is it always when we’re out on the deck trying to enjoy the evening? Thing 2 - the motorcycles have come out and their owners roar up and down the streets. Around and around the block. Early in the morning, in the evening, late at night. I hate motorcycles, I hate their noise, I hated the ride I was given on one, and I hate how every year one or more of their unfortunate owners have to be scraped off the road after a crash. I’ve been told to wear earplugs and have another beer since noise bothers me so much…
There are… pause to do a quick mental rummage 3 people on the planet I hate.
I am very careful using the word hate. For me, it has some mental baggage.
Oddly, for a while, shortly after someone would make my hate list, they would die. Very odd.
One on my current list I actually set out to end, but I talked myself out of it before I did myself a world of harm.
So, yes, there are 3 people I hate living now. 2 of the 3 I will probably never see again. 1 I expect to see at some point, and how I will deal with that will be… odd. Not sure what I’ll do.
There are three or four people I know personally that I could hate if were so inclined, but I just settle for disliking them intensely, as that seems to require less effort.
Hmmm, Hate, Loathe. Detest. Maybe we have different interpretations of these words? It might be more accurate to say I detest those two men, as many here seem to attach a daily energy drain to the idea of active “hate.”
I’ve always found hatred to be a perfectly valid emotion, and I tend to adamantly disagree with people who think it takes energy or work to maintain.
I don’t hate any more easily than I love. You have to earn either with me. There are a few people in each category, though. There are a number of people, however, that I actively loathe. That seems to be an easier mark to hit.