I was married back in October…as a matter of fact I haven’t been back to the boards since almost halloween! But married life I must say is treating my wife and I quite well. Saying ‘my wife this’, and ‘my wife that’, is still exciting for me! Changing all the paper work for our joint ventured was very fun, Licenses, insurances, social security cards etc…etc…
My wife and I were with each other for quite a while before we were married, and lived with one another before too, so in that sense things have not changed too much. But all in all the honeymoon stage has not left us and we are going exuberantly strong! It baffles me as to how people say everything goes down hill after one is married, I guess I just don’t see it. I can see their persepective, I am certainly not ignorant of their motives, [finances, kids, lack of intimacy], I just have a hard time thinking that these woes will come upon my wife and I. Sorry for the bug Dose of gushy happiness!
I agree ! I’ve been married about a year and a half … we didn’t live together beforehand (not even on the same continent) so it couldn’t really go “downhill.” And I didn’t change my name so there wasn’t much paperwork.
Before the wedding my good friend offered me the following advice: “Marriage is a trip.” And she was certainly right. It’s like nothing I could have imagined …
Maybe this is the essential point to what I am trying to convey. I believe it will be there in ‘Oh, three years.’ My wife and I have an interesting relationship, we work together. Well we work in the same building…What I do is completely different than her job…But we do lunch together when I’m not on travel. We always ride in together…there is a lot of variety in our life too. We work in Boston and live in Newton Monday thru Friday and spend the weekends at our home in VT. Weird but we don’t mind…
I’ve known my husband for almost 30 years, and lived with him nine years before we married seven years ago (next month). And we were in-laws for a while. I was AMAZED at how different marriage was from just living together. I was so weirded out that I ate cheezy beef sandwiches every night for six weeks. I’ve managed to find the kitchen again and we’re back to normal, but it was surreal at first. And I didn’t change my name, either.
I’ve been amazed at how different our relationship feels since my S.O. proposed to me. We’ve been living together for something like 9 years, but now we’re all giggly and silly like we just fell in love or something. It’s weird, but I like it.
Like I told him, “Everything’s the same now, but everything’s different.”
I’m looking forward to getting married and being married. And I’m keeping my last name.
Working up to the marriage I came to the conclusion that the only way I knew I was marrying the right person was to wake up one morning and realize I’d been married to her for 60 years…
She dated my roommate in college for 5 years, We’ve been good friends for more than a decade and married almost 8 years…I still couldn’t imagine living without her.
I got married a couple of days after September 11th…Seemed a very inauspicious time to do it…but so far so good! Although I think it has more to do with my husband than the actual marriage state. He’s awesome. I don’t think just anyone would do…it had to be him!
No offense, but I’m sure most people believe that at this point in the relationship, and clearly a lot of them are wrong. If you were doubting it after only two months, that’d be a huge red flag; but unless you’re clairvoyant, your predictions don’t mean much.
I’ve been married 22 years and know very few men my age that enjoy being married. I’d say about 90 percent would walk if it weren’t for the children and the money and their wives don’t have a clue. I include myself among the 90 percent. You see there’s this thing called menopause that turns your dear loving wife into a raging, irrational, screaming banshee for ten years and destroys forever any good feeling between a couple. I hope you keep liking married life forever but you’ll be the exception IMHO.
I turned into a ‘raging, irrational, screaming banshee’ 6 or 7 years ago and stayed that way for several years.
I’m 31. Didn’t have a damn thing to do with menopause. Had to do with the $@#! I was living with, the way he treated me, and the way his treatment of me made me feel about myself.
It took a year of internal change and one final boot in the ass for me to see not only why I was miserable, but that I was miserable. Maybe you should step back and look at the situation with fresh eyes to see if the problem really is menopause.
Neither one of us are really concerned about divorce in our own personal futures. We were not married too early, (we are both in our early 30’s) we know where each other stands on children…and we know how we both feel about finances…my wife handles them:)
As for Menopause -> we actually just saw the broadway play Menopause and THE CHANGE happens to everyone…and my wife said to me. When it does happen, I’ll try to make light of the changes…I’ll probably start listening to heavy metal and eating pickles and tuna, but hey! thats funny in itself!
Having a well developed sense of humor has helped us so much in our lives…it helps us deal with many a situation that arise, that may be adversive in some way…I look forward to the future.
Got married a year ago Sunday, still like it fine, and still get very giggly.
One year in a studio apartment with debt and small salaries, and two obstreperous cats. The only real problem is that the cats keep knocking the sword rack over.
We didn’t live together before marriage, and I changed my name- at least on some of my documents- I’m lazy and the church didn’t write my name on our marriage certificate, which complicates things.
I know we’re still in the “newly-married, happy-glowy” stage, but I think it’s rather good that the year’s been difficult, and we’re still extrordinarily happy.
