Sorry, but this is a downer of a thread.
I needed a copy (certified) of my sister’s death certificate to forward to her former employer (who let her go last year on April 1 for disability, nice timing, huh) so that they can then send it on to the insurance company so that the ins company can then cut checks to us, as newly made legal guardians of our own kids, we can then deposit said funds into a trust.
Yes, it is a wonderful gift. No, I am not complaining about the money (except that our third child is not mentioned as a beneficiary–an oversight, but most 46 y/o sinlge women don’t expect to die).
I just wish I had my sister back, instead of the money.
I know this is the SDMB and we’re all smartasses etc, but dammit, I need a hug today.
Thanks in advance.
Aww, eleanorigby. {{hugs}} I know the feeling… when my sister died, she left me a little money, and it felt horrible, almost like an insult: “you want to try to make up for her abscence with that?”
Yes.
Hugs
There is nothing anyone can say to make losing your sister less difficult. There are some types of pain with which one can only make peace and live.
eleanorigby I don’t usually do this, but {{HUG}}. Ok, in real life I’d squeeze the stuffin outta ya but not usually on a message board. I went through this when my brother died three years ago. You’re right, I would much rather have my brother than the money.
Here’s to your sister and my brother. We miss y’all and we love y’all.
Thanks, everyone. I am sitting here with a pile of Kleenex. Something about getting the cert in the mail drove it all home to me (again). She died in August of '04.
swampbear --I am so sorry for the loss of your brother.
I feel more comfortable “talking” about this here–it’s amazing how many people thnk that you should “be over” this by now…
On review–sorry, sunspace, didn’t mean to overlook your loss.
Yeah… my sister died in 1990 and I still miss her… watch out for the 1-year anniversary, also birthdays and such. It comes up at odd times.
Thanks.
I share both my dead sisters’ birthday.
They were twins and I was born on their Bday 4 years later. The rist twin died in 1997, the second one this past August.
I am not looking forward to July this year.
hugs
My dad died twelve years ago next month. Early May is still a bit rough. It’s gotten better, but I miss him, and always will.
Hang in there. There’s lots of us here for you.
It is a very surrealistic thing to see a siblings death certificate. It isn’t the same when you see a parents. You expect to out live them, but your siblings are suppose to grow old with you so you can blame them for throwing your barbies in the campfire when you were 12 for the rest of your life.
I know how you feel.
Of course. I don’t know what it’s like to lose a sibling. I do know what it’s like to lose close family, though, therefore my hugs.
When I lost mrslanelee last year the SDMB was there for me, I am grateful.
Here’s a HUG from me. God bless!!!
You lost both your twins? How awful! You are in my thoughts.
I think the loss of a sibling hits us more than the death of a parent because it’s a contemporary. We lost Ivylad’s father last year, and that was very sad. But then earlier this year Ivylad’s sister had a heart attack scare, and I’m thinking, “She’s only a few years older than I am! She can’t have a heart attack!”
Good luck come July. Remember them and celebrate their lives.
hugs
My thoughts are with you.